Here is what I believe. No matter what people say, it is very difficult for women to have sex with men and not have get emotional. Men can have sex just for the pleasure of it and NOTHING else. You are going away to college in August, focus on that. This ';relationship'; you are having now is a distraction. You know full well that sex outside of a committed relationship is self destructive. You know you could get knocked up or you could get a STD.
You need to grow up. Stop this, stop seeing him. Focus on getting ready to live away from home and at college. When you are at college, you will have to really focus on your classes, learn to focus now.
So you have strong feelings, you are young such is life! What are your goals for your life? Why are you going to college? What will you study? What are you going to do for a living? Focus on your future.I need some advice....about a ';realtionship';?
hey if you're both mature about it there's no problem. if neither of you wants a relationship, then all that is is unbridled sex. nothing more. it's when feelings get involved that the problems start rolling in like the tide. but sex is just sex, and as long as you both agree that that's all there is then you'll be fine. if either of you feels like you should stop, then be man or woman enough to say so. at least keep the honesty factor in the relationship.
Look...nothing's WRONG with being one another's FWB. And there's nothing wrong with you having feelings while you do it. You're not breaking some cardinal rule here. Asside from saying ';let's go out'; or ';I love you'; you're already IN a relationship for all intents and purposes. Might as well just go ahead and ask him out. Less guilt on your part it would seem.
Stop it . It only complicates things. both now and in the future.
It's not wrong as long as both of you know where the ';relationship'; stands. If one of you, or the other, or both are not being honest with one another, then that's a problem, because you're playing the other person. But as adults in a consentual sexual relationship, there's nothing wrong with that at all. The only concern I have is that you were friends, then dated, and are now friends with benefits. There seems to be some level of attraction there. You have to ask yourself why you want to be with the other person. Is it because you don't want to be alone? Lose their friendship? Insecurity? The sex is just that good? If you are confident and comfortable with who you are and how the relationship exists right now, and are honest with the other person, then go right ahead. Have fun. But if you ask yourself any of those questions and don't have a confident answer, then you should question why you're still with the other person.
As long as you are both happy with the arrangement things are good. the thing is you would not be asking this question if you did not have some doubts about your status.
I got together with a female buddy of mine from the time I was 15 until almost 30. We are still friends(no sex). I value her almost as much as my wife.
I would recommend focusing on your friendship seeing as how you have already tried dating. Close platonic friendships between men and women are so valuable. Decide what works best for you, but I would recommend you both talk about your feelings and better develop your communication skills.
good luck.
OK just try both of u to live away from eachother for a while and u'll find a good answer for wt to do about it.
maybe u both feel like u wanna be just friends but u gotta try it , maybe u both don't want a relationship coz u didn't try to live like normal friends so my advice is to take a rest , just try to stop being more then friends for 2 or 3 weeks
I think you either should be together or just be friends. I don't believe in friends with benefits but I also don't believe in sex before marriage. If he is willing to get back together than I would if you really like him. If he's not just be friends. A friend with benefits is not a good relationship to have.
There's nothing wrong with the situation as long as you know that whatever the results of the circumstances will be, you'll be able to accept it whole-heartedly. Because given the situation, there is no real commitment and since the two of you are sexually-involved, the possibility of getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant is there. And since there is really no real commitment you can't force anyone to marry you bec you are pregnant or you cannot be forced to marry someone because you got her pregnant. Anyways, whatever the situation is, the two of you should be more mature individuals to face the reality and contemplate about it. The decision is still with you and your partner. Good Luck!
ive never done that,but i know it complicates things and can make things worse i think you should stop before things get too messy
if you are friends then you could do away with the sex part. its like you are just using each other. have a talk, make a stand.
Its not bad to be friends with benefits. Im kind of in the same situation. You and your friend both like each other but it is better off as friends for some reason or another. Its okay to be friends with benefits and still like each other. But make sure you dont let them slip away!
i think u should talk your feelings out with your friend and see how they feel.
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