My girl and I have been dating for four months. She just started a new job. She says two guys have been fighting over. She told them she had a boyf. She told one guy took her to lunch. He didn't buy. Now she told me talked with him for three hours. She says she loves me and wants to be with me. She says she told him that we a serious. What should I do? How should I feel.I need advice about a relationship!!!! Confused and Retarded?
Hey i really came here 2 help u out...
eh... sorry din understand ur q... plz don't feel bad....!!!
Friday, January 8, 2010
Just need advice about a 'video'?
ok all u guys is it normal for u to send a video of yourself you know whating to a girl.... not that long ago this guy that i was talking too sent a vdeo to me when he was mast@$^#%% he also said he wanted me tosend a video and pics of my top rack.... can u please tell me if thats normal for guys or not thank you :)Just need advice about a 'video'?
tbh, i would totally advise against anything of the sort.
Think of what he could do with such a photogrpah. HE COULD RUIN YOUR WHOLE LIFE.
And it would be even worse if it had your face in it :|
Seriously, in my opinion, do not do it.
Answer mine? It simply refuses to post... It's basically rating my drawing :P
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Just need advice about a 'video'?
Assuming you want a real answer...
I am assuming this is a teenager that did this. Anyone older, and they should know better and be slapped with a sexual harassment lawsuit.
However, and I'm not justifying the behavior, teenage boys tend to let their hormones run away with their better judgment. Explain to him that his advances are unwanted and that if he persists, you will report him to the authorities. That should get him to quit harassing you.
i don't think it's normal. i've sent picture and invited girls to my flickr account where i have pictures of my co-k, but never videos and never uninvited.
Um i heard about a guy doing it once. i don't think it's coll hey. jus no, its weird. DONT send him anything of any part of you. kinda dodge.
so no, not normal for guys..........
If it's normal for guys, then I want to part of that. You need to find yourself a guy who knows what's proper and polite.
I dont know how old you are, but here lately thats how gurls get raped and killed..So you take it how you want to take it.. I would just be very careful unless you actually know this guy
No, that's not normal and a little disturbing. I'm surprised that didn't completely creep you out. You should avoid this guy.
well i wouldnt send a girl pictures/videos of me jacking off, but i WOULD ask you for videos of YOU masterbating or naked
It's happened to me a few times...
jjjjjjj
lmfao
perv.
lmfao......
sounds pretty sexy to me
So your sending us a video ?
No we dont do that!
tbh, i would totally advise against anything of the sort.
Think of what he could do with such a photogrpah. HE COULD RUIN YOUR WHOLE LIFE.
And it would be even worse if it had your face in it :|
Seriously, in my opinion, do not do it.
Answer mine? It simply refuses to post... It's basically rating my drawing :P
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Just need advice about a 'video'?
Assuming you want a real answer...
I am assuming this is a teenager that did this. Anyone older, and they should know better and be slapped with a sexual harassment lawsuit.
However, and I'm not justifying the behavior, teenage boys tend to let their hormones run away with their better judgment. Explain to him that his advances are unwanted and that if he persists, you will report him to the authorities. That should get him to quit harassing you.
i don't think it's normal. i've sent picture and invited girls to my flickr account where i have pictures of my co-k, but never videos and never uninvited.
Um i heard about a guy doing it once. i don't think it's coll hey. jus no, its weird. DONT send him anything of any part of you. kinda dodge.
so no, not normal for guys..........
If it's normal for guys, then I want to part of that. You need to find yourself a guy who knows what's proper and polite.
I dont know how old you are, but here lately thats how gurls get raped and killed..So you take it how you want to take it.. I would just be very careful unless you actually know this guy
No, that's not normal and a little disturbing. I'm surprised that didn't completely creep you out. You should avoid this guy.
well i wouldnt send a girl pictures/videos of me jacking off, but i WOULD ask you for videos of YOU masterbating or naked
It's happened to me a few times...
jjjjjjj
lmfao
perv.
lmfao......
sounds pretty sexy to me
So your sending us a video ?
No we dont do that!
I need advice about my car.?
I recently bought my car that i previously leased. I really dont like the car any more. What can i do to get rid of it and get a new car?I need advice about my car.?
Drive it off a bridge into a new car dealer ship. Take the insurance money and buy a new car before you leave.I need advice about my car.?
well you should of asked before you bought. now u have to sell it outright used or take it back to the dealer you bought it from and tell them that if they eat your lease you will buy brand new at 20 percent higher what your Original car was worth at time of lease, this gives the dealer a shot at commission.
I would ';detail it'; to the max (wash / wax it .. clean the inside totally great) ... go to Zaino.com .... use Zaino ';PC Fusion'; to clean the paint with, and then Z-2 to polish it ...... Zaino is like a miracle in a bottle. You will need the correct towels to use ... (yes .. please .. trust me) ... if you go to LAZaino.com ... he has them ... they are not that much $$ ... and well worth it.
then I would go to Autotrader.com and list it. Autotrader is a great resource.
You could also list it on Ebay Motors ..... they get a lot of traffic.
both of these places will show you what other people with the same make / model are getting ( $$ ) for their cars as well ....
If you trade it, it will be off your hands that same day .... but you will loose a blasted fortune doing it that way, whereas if you can sell it yourself, you will make out so much better $$$
hope this helps ...
You bought to so it's yours. Sell it or trade it in if you want. Probably the reason you don't like it is it is worn out.
Duh? Did you pay cash or buy via financing? Sell it or trade it in %26amp; get what you want. Pretty simple.
trade it in,,,
Drive it off a bridge into a new car dealer ship. Take the insurance money and buy a new car before you leave.I need advice about my car.?
well you should of asked before you bought. now u have to sell it outright used or take it back to the dealer you bought it from and tell them that if they eat your lease you will buy brand new at 20 percent higher what your Original car was worth at time of lease, this gives the dealer a shot at commission.
I would ';detail it'; to the max (wash / wax it .. clean the inside totally great) ... go to Zaino.com .... use Zaino ';PC Fusion'; to clean the paint with, and then Z-2 to polish it ...... Zaino is like a miracle in a bottle. You will need the correct towels to use ... (yes .. please .. trust me) ... if you go to LAZaino.com ... he has them ... they are not that much $$ ... and well worth it.
then I would go to Autotrader.com and list it. Autotrader is a great resource.
You could also list it on Ebay Motors ..... they get a lot of traffic.
both of these places will show you what other people with the same make / model are getting ( $$ ) for their cars as well ....
If you trade it, it will be off your hands that same day .... but you will loose a blasted fortune doing it that way, whereas if you can sell it yourself, you will make out so much better $$$
hope this helps ...
You bought to so it's yours. Sell it or trade it in if you want. Probably the reason you don't like it is it is worn out.
Duh? Did you pay cash or buy via financing? Sell it or trade it in %26amp; get what you want. Pretty simple.
trade it in,,,
I need advice about my relationship -- provide your insight, please!?
First, a bit of history. My girlfriend and I have known each other for just about five years now but we've only been dating for about four months. We've already said those three scary words (and meant them), and just as importantly, we still really like one another. At least from my end.
So what is my problem? Well, in four months, we haven't progressed at all past kissing. I'm not a pushy guy by any means, and I don't really care about the physical much. But by kissing, I don't mean of the French variety. I mean pecking, and I'm the one that has to initiate that. I'm not sure that she's actually kissed me of her own accord yet. We hold hands and occasionally she'll sidle up beside me... but things just aren't moving.
It's just continued for so long now that I'm scared to rock the boat. I don't know that she wants it since she hasn't given me anything herself, and I'm equally scared to just come out and ask. I'm a wimp, I know.
But I love her. What do you think?I need advice about my relationship -- provide your insight, please!?
Been There, Done That, more than once.
Believe me, I understand your feelings.
You didn't mention your age. If you are still in high school, don't sweat it. Just take cold showers and try to think about other things.
If you are a bit older, i.e. college age, maybe you should consider trying to escalate things a bit.
I'm not saying you should be groping or pressing for sex, that would be ungentlemanly. However, I don't think it would be going too far out of bounds to try getting the kissing a bit warmer. Though it is unlikely in this day and age, it is possible that she is just waiting to let you take the lead.
Next kiss, try a bit of tongue. She might surprise you with her enthusiasm. Or she might pitch a fit. At least it will get things out in the open and you can discuss your desire to make your relationship a bit more physical. What happens then depends on the discussion.
You sound like a well-mannered young gentleman, and I don't think you need to be instructed in gentlemanly behavior. In fact, I compliment you on your attitude and restraint. Keep up the good behavior.
Good Luck.
DocI need advice about my relationship -- provide your insight, please!?
How old are you guys?
If you are younger, don't push the issue.
Otherwise, talk to her and see what she is thinking.
Here is what I did.
Background: Friends for 30+ years
Took her to a fall festival last October.
Kissed her like I meant it. Left her shocked
Came home and cooked her a gourmet dinner
Told her that if she wanted more in the relationship she would have to make the next move.
She has been home a couple of dozen times sense then for 1 night at a time.
Last night was one of those nights
Couldn't sleep, Missed her.
You must communicate your feelings and your needs clearly, and if all else fails, USE WORDS!
Run like crazy. I knew my husband for 5 years before we got married and he turned out to be one of the biggest creeps in the world. If you don't know what she wants by now, something's wrong. You ought to be scared. The relationship is already doomed. Find someone else.
I'm sure you'll get the same answer from everybody - learn to communicate your feelings. It's the most manly thing to do and lack of it has ruined more marriages and relationships than anything else.
The other thing is that most women will not initiate at all. They are used to being chased and the object of attention. Most women also lack the skills to flirt well. So, scary or not - you are going to have to make the moves.
Take your time, go slow and relax.
I guess you could use some psychology. Ask her to get you a coke or coffee - reasonable things. Little things over time and she'll learn (like a good dog) that your appreciation is something to be valued and that she wants to do more for you.
Good luck, pal.
she is probably just shy about this thats why you have to initate it all the time and when she is ready she will give it to you she is making sure when the time is right ! and she could be saving her self for marriage too
love is patient...
You aren't a wimp, you respect her and don't want to hurt her. Now, the question is how well do you know her? Do you know her dirty little secret, what turns her on in bed? Perhaps she has this fantasy about playing really hard to get. If that is just not her, then perhaps she is really shy. Has she had sex before? Has she been raped or abused as a child? How much do you really know about her past history? Perhaps she slept with a guy who said he loved her, and then dumped her as soon as he got it. for a shy person, that can be the kiss of death for a guy who really means it. Is it impossible to overcome that, no, but, it does make it harder.
Continue to be honest and open wth her. I would sit her down and ask her what she wants from your relationship with her. Does she want to change it? Is there a hang up? Is she afraid that if she sleeps with you that she will lose the friendship and the love? Some women are scared to death of finding real love b/c it hurts a lot more if it doesn't work out (of course this is true of men too).
but, it does sound if you should sit down and let her do the talking and let her move at a pace she wants. Without knowing more about her, I'd be very very cautious b/c she could have been abused as a child and you don't want to hurt her. So, be open, caring, and honest, and willing to listen to whatever she says.
good luck.
if you know each other for 5 years, then you should be able to]
talk to her about anything, time to find out what she want , if
she truly want to be in the relationship as a couple or as
just friends.
Some people just don鈥檛 require the emotional stimulation some of us require to be happy. You neglected to mention your age, which is a factor, but for the most part if you intend a long-term relationship with her you must have a heart to heart talk to ease your worries. Find out her point of view and go from there.
Go ahead and rock the boat and talk to her about your feelings and thoughts. The only way you will truly come closer is to be open, honest and communicate.
lol, wow. i had a relashionship just like that once. it was really awkward sometimes, because i would want to do something besides pecking like you said, but i didnt know how to tell him. and i really wasnt used to it, cuz its usually the guys who want to.
anyways, just talk to her, simply say ';id like to try french kissing'; or something, just to get the ball rolling you know? im sure affter you guys start getting a little more physical, she will open up to try new things.. but if you really like her that much, dont push her, just ';suggest'; things you would like..
there is no harm in asking :)
have fun
talk to her about it, tell her you want to show her more affection but you want to know how she feels about it. if she doesn't want that, then let it go for a couple months and if things haven't progressed then talk to her about it again. i would say after six months with only a peck on the cheek, either she is afraid, or she doesn't want people to think impure of her.lips
So what is my problem? Well, in four months, we haven't progressed at all past kissing. I'm not a pushy guy by any means, and I don't really care about the physical much. But by kissing, I don't mean of the French variety. I mean pecking, and I'm the one that has to initiate that. I'm not sure that she's actually kissed me of her own accord yet. We hold hands and occasionally she'll sidle up beside me... but things just aren't moving.
It's just continued for so long now that I'm scared to rock the boat. I don't know that she wants it since she hasn't given me anything herself, and I'm equally scared to just come out and ask. I'm a wimp, I know.
But I love her. What do you think?I need advice about my relationship -- provide your insight, please!?
Been There, Done That, more than once.
Believe me, I understand your feelings.
You didn't mention your age. If you are still in high school, don't sweat it. Just take cold showers and try to think about other things.
If you are a bit older, i.e. college age, maybe you should consider trying to escalate things a bit.
I'm not saying you should be groping or pressing for sex, that would be ungentlemanly. However, I don't think it would be going too far out of bounds to try getting the kissing a bit warmer. Though it is unlikely in this day and age, it is possible that she is just waiting to let you take the lead.
Next kiss, try a bit of tongue. She might surprise you with her enthusiasm. Or she might pitch a fit. At least it will get things out in the open and you can discuss your desire to make your relationship a bit more physical. What happens then depends on the discussion.
You sound like a well-mannered young gentleman, and I don't think you need to be instructed in gentlemanly behavior. In fact, I compliment you on your attitude and restraint. Keep up the good behavior.
Good Luck.
DocI need advice about my relationship -- provide your insight, please!?
How old are you guys?
If you are younger, don't push the issue.
Otherwise, talk to her and see what she is thinking.
Here is what I did.
Background: Friends for 30+ years
Took her to a fall festival last October.
Kissed her like I meant it. Left her shocked
Came home and cooked her a gourmet dinner
Told her that if she wanted more in the relationship she would have to make the next move.
She has been home a couple of dozen times sense then for 1 night at a time.
Last night was one of those nights
Couldn't sleep, Missed her.
You must communicate your feelings and your needs clearly, and if all else fails, USE WORDS!
Run like crazy. I knew my husband for 5 years before we got married and he turned out to be one of the biggest creeps in the world. If you don't know what she wants by now, something's wrong. You ought to be scared. The relationship is already doomed. Find someone else.
I'm sure you'll get the same answer from everybody - learn to communicate your feelings. It's the most manly thing to do and lack of it has ruined more marriages and relationships than anything else.
The other thing is that most women will not initiate at all. They are used to being chased and the object of attention. Most women also lack the skills to flirt well. So, scary or not - you are going to have to make the moves.
Take your time, go slow and relax.
I guess you could use some psychology. Ask her to get you a coke or coffee - reasonable things. Little things over time and she'll learn (like a good dog) that your appreciation is something to be valued and that she wants to do more for you.
Good luck, pal.
she is probably just shy about this thats why you have to initate it all the time and when she is ready she will give it to you she is making sure when the time is right ! and she could be saving her self for marriage too
love is patient...
You aren't a wimp, you respect her and don't want to hurt her. Now, the question is how well do you know her? Do you know her dirty little secret, what turns her on in bed? Perhaps she has this fantasy about playing really hard to get. If that is just not her, then perhaps she is really shy. Has she had sex before? Has she been raped or abused as a child? How much do you really know about her past history? Perhaps she slept with a guy who said he loved her, and then dumped her as soon as he got it. for a shy person, that can be the kiss of death for a guy who really means it. Is it impossible to overcome that, no, but, it does make it harder.
Continue to be honest and open wth her. I would sit her down and ask her what she wants from your relationship with her. Does she want to change it? Is there a hang up? Is she afraid that if she sleeps with you that she will lose the friendship and the love? Some women are scared to death of finding real love b/c it hurts a lot more if it doesn't work out (of course this is true of men too).
but, it does sound if you should sit down and let her do the talking and let her move at a pace she wants. Without knowing more about her, I'd be very very cautious b/c she could have been abused as a child and you don't want to hurt her. So, be open, caring, and honest, and willing to listen to whatever she says.
good luck.
if you know each other for 5 years, then you should be able to]
talk to her about anything, time to find out what she want , if
she truly want to be in the relationship as a couple or as
just friends.
Some people just don鈥檛 require the emotional stimulation some of us require to be happy. You neglected to mention your age, which is a factor, but for the most part if you intend a long-term relationship with her you must have a heart to heart talk to ease your worries. Find out her point of view and go from there.
Go ahead and rock the boat and talk to her about your feelings and thoughts. The only way you will truly come closer is to be open, honest and communicate.
lol, wow. i had a relashionship just like that once. it was really awkward sometimes, because i would want to do something besides pecking like you said, but i didnt know how to tell him. and i really wasnt used to it, cuz its usually the guys who want to.
anyways, just talk to her, simply say ';id like to try french kissing'; or something, just to get the ball rolling you know? im sure affter you guys start getting a little more physical, she will open up to try new things.. but if you really like her that much, dont push her, just ';suggest'; things you would like..
there is no harm in asking :)
have fun
talk to her about it, tell her you want to show her more affection but you want to know how she feels about it. if she doesn't want that, then let it go for a couple months and if things haven't progressed then talk to her about it again. i would say after six months with only a peck on the cheek, either she is afraid, or she doesn't want people to think impure of her.
I need advice about a girl bad!!!!!!!!!!!?
I MEET THIS GIRL AND HER MOTHER AT MY WORK. WE GOT ALONG GREAT SO THEY ASKED ME TO NO SOME WORK FOR THEM . THE GIRL IS PROBABLY THE MOST PERFECT GIRL I COULD EVERY IMAGINE !!!!! 5'8 SURFER GIRL, IN SCHOOL TO COMPLETE HER MASTERS.ME ON THE OTHER HAND HAVE NO CONFIDENCE/BALLS, TO EVEN LOOK HER IN THE EYE. TODAY I STARTED WORK SHE ,HELPED ME OUT ASKED ME IF I NEEDED ANYTHING AND WAS SUPER NICE.I THINK WE HAVE A GOOD VIBE SINCE THE FIRST TIME WE MEET .....WHEN SHE SMILES........SHE LOOKS UNREAL. SHE IS SHY LIKE ME AND I AM NOT SURE IF SHE REALIZES HOW BEUTIFUL SHE IS YET.... THE PERFECT CATCH.I AM A GOOD LOOKING GUY... BUT AM DOWN ON LIFE HAVING TO MOVE BACK INTO MY PARENTS HOME BECAUSE OF ISSUES WITH WORK. i DONT HAVE ALOT OF MONEY....I FEEL LIKE A BUMP ON A LOG. I WILL BE MOVING OUT IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS . HOPEFULLEY THAT WILL BOOST MY SELF ESTEEM. I AM I FEW YEARS OLDER THAN THIS GIRL BUT I KNOW THERES SOMETHING THERE, WHAT SHOULD I DO??????I need advice about a girl bad!!!!!!!!!!!?
try flirtin and tell her she is as sweet as a rose or get her a teddy bear and a couple flowers.I need advice about a girl bad!!!!!!!!!!!?
give her some hints, don't be shy.
If you don't do anything some other guys would.
SO go for it!! you're a guy what there to loose%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;??
dear friend,
if you are down on your luck and having to move back into your parents home, well you can not afford a relationship. to get to know someone takes cash, cut and dry. you should spend time getting your act together, so you will have the self esteem you need.
she may just be a nice person trying to help you as you help them.....she may like you. i suggest you ask her to go on a walk with you.....cheap date for a broke person......smile when you ask her.....good luck
write her a letter and tell her how you feel
Step One: Reach between you legs
Step Two: Squeeze (Gently)
Step Three: You have found your balls.
Step Four: There is no Step Four
You should be fine from this point forward.
try flirtin and tell her she is as sweet as a rose or get her a teddy bear and a couple flowers.I need advice about a girl bad!!!!!!!!!!!?
give her some hints, don't be shy.
If you don't do anything some other guys would.
SO go for it!! you're a guy what there to loose%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;??
dear friend,
if you are down on your luck and having to move back into your parents home, well you can not afford a relationship. to get to know someone takes cash, cut and dry. you should spend time getting your act together, so you will have the self esteem you need.
she may just be a nice person trying to help you as you help them.....she may like you. i suggest you ask her to go on a walk with you.....cheap date for a broke person......smile when you ask her.....good luck
write her a letter and tell her how you feel
Step One: Reach between you legs
Step Two: Squeeze (Gently)
Step Three: You have found your balls.
Step Four: There is no Step Four
You should be fine from this point forward.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
I need advice about female issues!?
My boyfriend and I have had sex while I was on my period. i know thats weird but anyways. My question is would having sex during that time throw off my MC or cause it to not come completely? Because now I have missed my period. It is more than a week late and I suspect I could be pregnant as well?! What is going on??? Anyone who knows something please help!?!?I need advice about female issues!?
I'm thinking you're stressed and that's what is throwing off your cycle. Take a test. If negative, let it go. Don't stress and take another. If positive, get used to the idea.
And contrary to popular belief, you cannot get pregnant anytime. The only way you can get pregnant during your period is if you have a very short cycle, like 21 days or so. If you have a regular 28-32 day one, you can't.I need advice about female issues!?
take a test
There are very few things which can throw off your menstrual cycle, travel through time zones, starvation, excessive exercise and pregnancy but not having sex during your period. Which is not as uncommon as you think. Women get pregnant during their periods all the time. Go get tested if you think you might be PG. It might not be too late for emergency contraception if you get down to Planned Parenthood with a quickness.
You can get pregnant at any time.
sometimes it stops your ';cycle'; till next time. get a pregnancy test just to be sure.
First of all you re not married ,secondly even if you were having sex while you are bleeding puts you both in danger of hell fire.Its an abomination for him to discover your ';fountain';look in the truth, that is to say the Bible.
Sperm can live 4 days inside, you are only ';safe'; 3 days (and very difficult to predict which days) therefore, you could be pregnant. But then again, maybe not. Use a condom next time?
you could very well be pregnant. of course, i would hope that if you were, you would keep it, or give it up for adoption and not abort.... you didnt use protection, that's not the baby's fault if your pregnant. good luck.
I have done this before myself. It may just throw off your cycle, but I don't think you can get pregnant while you are actually on your cycle (or should I say it is more difficult). You should be OK.
I'm thinking you're stressed and that's what is throwing off your cycle. Take a test. If negative, let it go. Don't stress and take another. If positive, get used to the idea.
And contrary to popular belief, you cannot get pregnant anytime. The only way you can get pregnant during your period is if you have a very short cycle, like 21 days or so. If you have a regular 28-32 day one, you can't.I need advice about female issues!?
take a test
There are very few things which can throw off your menstrual cycle, travel through time zones, starvation, excessive exercise and pregnancy but not having sex during your period. Which is not as uncommon as you think. Women get pregnant during their periods all the time. Go get tested if you think you might be PG. It might not be too late for emergency contraception if you get down to Planned Parenthood with a quickness.
You can get pregnant at any time.
sometimes it stops your ';cycle'; till next time. get a pregnancy test just to be sure.
First of all you re not married ,secondly even if you were having sex while you are bleeding puts you both in danger of hell fire.Its an abomination for him to discover your ';fountain';look in the truth, that is to say the Bible.
Sperm can live 4 days inside, you are only ';safe'; 3 days (and very difficult to predict which days) therefore, you could be pregnant. But then again, maybe not. Use a condom next time?
you could very well be pregnant. of course, i would hope that if you were, you would keep it, or give it up for adoption and not abort.... you didnt use protection, that's not the baby's fault if your pregnant. good luck.
I have done this before myself. It may just throw off your cycle, but I don't think you can get pregnant while you are actually on your cycle (or should I say it is more difficult). You should be OK.
I need advice about coming out...?
okay, im 16 and bi-sexual
i haven't told my parents or friends and not sure if i should.
i hope my friends would be cool with it but i think my parents (especially my dad) would find it weird.
i was wondering if anyone had came out and had any advice?
ThanksI need advice about coming out...?
don't tell your family if you think there may be trouble
maybe start by telling a few chosen friends who you know you can trustI need advice about coming out...?
Hi there, personally I do not think your sexuality is any other persons business but your own and your partners, unless you intend to have sex in front of your friends and parents there is no reason why your sexuality is of any interest to them. I am bisexual and have been for over 30 years and my family do not know i am bisexual and neither do they need to know, its not hiding it or ashamed of it, being bisexual is as normal as being heterosexual and you wouldnt go and broadcast to your family that you are heterosexual would you, if they love you unconditionally there is no reason why your sexuality should affect them - What reason would there be to tell your friends what sex you sleep with, its only your business and that of your partner who is involved with you - so the simple answer is don't tell them its none of their business and there are so many homophoebics out there that it could be used as an excuse against you or to lose friends, what they dont know wont hurt them - or you...
Can I be Honesty? I do not advice you to do that now!
6 years ago,when I was 18 I decided to tell my mother I am Bi... well, I regret till today. Every time we argue, she throws it in my face. I am not saying my mother is wrong, I love her and I do understand her,even though I will never stop being Bi but it's been bothering me forever.
You are so young, and even though you really wanna do that, just wait some time. Don't need to tell people about it now. Wait till you have your own house, a good job so that you will have to answer only for yourself.
I am from Brazil,forgive me if I made any English mistake...but I hope you understood it!
Nobody who does not know you and your family really well can answer this. Some (rational) people accept gays and lesbians with no problem others are bigoted (irrational) and never underestimate how many ';closet homophobes'; are out there.
Once you come out you may be screwed for life so before you do make sure that you KNOW exactly what will happen.
DO NOT RELY ON ON-LINE ADVICE FOR THIS!!!
I haven't personally come out, as i am straight, but i do think if they are your true friends they will respect your decision. Be prepared that they and your parents may be slightly shocked at first, but i'm sure they will get used to it and hopefully it wont even bother them.
A few of my friends are bi and now they've came out they seem happy, as they don't need to hide anything.
Best of luck.
if you dont think its important to tell them then dont it would save a couple friendships and alot of weirdness. your parents are less likely to understand then ur friends. so if theres a couple you trust then tell them. at first its completely weird and they probably wont want to talk about it.
Just do it. That's the only advice I can give. It seems so hard to do such, and I wish I had taken my own advice. I'm a full-blown lesbian and to this day, my parents don't believe me. With coming out, you have to know now that there WILL be people who dislike it. I have a lot of anxiety over the fear of being judged...but if you don't come out, you'll never meet that person for you, and that's the biggest mistake one could make.
GL.
It all depends on how well you know those people and how well they react to knews....especially these kind of news. The first people you might want to focus on telling is your parents. Because no matter what, your parents will always be there for you, even if it takes some time to get used to for them.
Your friends may be something you could tell, but not immediately, as they might not approve of it and they might make it difficult for you....especially because your all teenagers and lets face it, teengaers can be a ***** to anyone if they want to be. Teenagers can do some pretty nasty things to you if your not careful. Your best friend (if you have one) should be the only friend you'd be best telling.
You'll be fine and i hope everything works out. If you're not ready, then just wait. Patience is a vluable key. Plus, you've got a ways to go, so don't force yourself into such a stressful situation if you don't have to.
i haven't told my parents or friends and not sure if i should.
i hope my friends would be cool with it but i think my parents (especially my dad) would find it weird.
i was wondering if anyone had came out and had any advice?
ThanksI need advice about coming out...?
don't tell your family if you think there may be trouble
maybe start by telling a few chosen friends who you know you can trustI need advice about coming out...?
Hi there, personally I do not think your sexuality is any other persons business but your own and your partners, unless you intend to have sex in front of your friends and parents there is no reason why your sexuality is of any interest to them. I am bisexual and have been for over 30 years and my family do not know i am bisexual and neither do they need to know, its not hiding it or ashamed of it, being bisexual is as normal as being heterosexual and you wouldnt go and broadcast to your family that you are heterosexual would you, if they love you unconditionally there is no reason why your sexuality should affect them - What reason would there be to tell your friends what sex you sleep with, its only your business and that of your partner who is involved with you - so the simple answer is don't tell them its none of their business and there are so many homophoebics out there that it could be used as an excuse against you or to lose friends, what they dont know wont hurt them - or you...
Can I be Honesty? I do not advice you to do that now!
6 years ago,when I was 18 I decided to tell my mother I am Bi... well, I regret till today. Every time we argue, she throws it in my face. I am not saying my mother is wrong, I love her and I do understand her,even though I will never stop being Bi but it's been bothering me forever.
You are so young, and even though you really wanna do that, just wait some time. Don't need to tell people about it now. Wait till you have your own house, a good job so that you will have to answer only for yourself.
I am from Brazil,forgive me if I made any English mistake...but I hope you understood it!
Nobody who does not know you and your family really well can answer this. Some (rational) people accept gays and lesbians with no problem others are bigoted (irrational) and never underestimate how many ';closet homophobes'; are out there.
Once you come out you may be screwed for life so before you do make sure that you KNOW exactly what will happen.
DO NOT RELY ON ON-LINE ADVICE FOR THIS!!!
I haven't personally come out, as i am straight, but i do think if they are your true friends they will respect your decision. Be prepared that they and your parents may be slightly shocked at first, but i'm sure they will get used to it and hopefully it wont even bother them.
A few of my friends are bi and now they've came out they seem happy, as they don't need to hide anything.
Best of luck.
if you dont think its important to tell them then dont it would save a couple friendships and alot of weirdness. your parents are less likely to understand then ur friends. so if theres a couple you trust then tell them. at first its completely weird and they probably wont want to talk about it.
Just do it. That's the only advice I can give. It seems so hard to do such, and I wish I had taken my own advice. I'm a full-blown lesbian and to this day, my parents don't believe me. With coming out, you have to know now that there WILL be people who dislike it. I have a lot of anxiety over the fear of being judged...but if you don't come out, you'll never meet that person for you, and that's the biggest mistake one could make.
GL.
It all depends on how well you know those people and how well they react to knews....especially these kind of news. The first people you might want to focus on telling is your parents. Because no matter what, your parents will always be there for you, even if it takes some time to get used to for them.
Your friends may be something you could tell, but not immediately, as they might not approve of it and they might make it difficult for you....especially because your all teenagers and lets face it, teengaers can be a ***** to anyone if they want to be. Teenagers can do some pretty nasty things to you if your not careful. Your best friend (if you have one) should be the only friend you'd be best telling.
You'll be fine and i hope everything works out. If you're not ready, then just wait. Patience is a vluable key. Plus, you've got a ways to go, so don't force yourself into such a stressful situation if you don't have to.
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