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Thursday, December 31, 2009
Advice about High School?
I will be going into high school next year (freshman). I don't know which classes to take or what to expect. People tell me to get involved and join lots of activities and clubs, but I don't know which ones to take. I like volleyball, but I'm not the best. I am good enough to make a team, but not as good as some of the people I know. I also am thinking about dance line, but I'm not really passionate about dance. I also like acting, so maybe drama club? But it seems like a lot of weird people are in drama club. I am kind of shy, so i don't do good around weird people. lol. Also give me advice about high school. For instance, if you could go back in time to your freshman year, what would you do differently knowing what you know now? Please help!!!!Advice about High School?
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get into leadership its a great way to get involved and get know people from many groups in the school
Advice about this boy?
I've known this boy for almost four years know,
We got really close to each other a lot. But every time, something happens and we stop talking.
I hadn't been talking to him for about a year now, it's was a shame because i really liked him, and i thought about him too.
A few weeks ago, he text me, saying that he'll always be there for me even if we don't talk anymore.
I replied. And then for about two weeks we got really close, closer than i've ever felt to him.
we text each other all the time. He talked about how much he loved me and how much he wanted to see me,
one time he said, 'You're amazing, i can't describe how special you really are to me, i love you so much, i never want to let you go baby.'
I reaaally loved him.
And then he stopped talking to me, he didn't even want to look at me,
I have no idea what made him change his mind about me, it's just upsetting. I asked him about it, and he said, 'nothing's changed' And then reluctantly told me he loves me.
I don't know what to do anymore. Please help.Advice about this boy?
Ok, this is another thing were guys are confusing to girls and girls are confusing to guys.
Most likely he wasnt playing games. like what ruined me and megans relationship (as bff's) was when her best girl friend said to me how much megans dislikes me and how she will never be with me.
that made me sad and made me not want to talk to her. but i still cried and i still do about her. now i am trying to be with her because i love her. i want to be with her and i think 1 of the following things has happend...
Someone said u dislike or hate him.
Someone said u think he is really anoying
He thinks u dont want to talk to him so he is giving ur space
He is just so sad he cant talk to you becaue he doesent want to make it worse (what ever IT is)
Doesent like u anymore
Or he could be playing game s(dought it but its possible)
Now those are some ideas. that is kinda listed in order the i beleave to dont beleave.
but i say ask him to go to the movies or just to hang out. if he says im busy say, how about on wednessday? then when u hang out talk to him and tell him you really love him and tell him how u feel about that hole not looking at u thing. He will proboly understand and then ask him why that happend.
hope it helpedAdvice about this boy?
sorry love but i think your wasting your time as it seems to me at least if he had a real romantic interest in you you would not have to chase him . you also mention he has a girlfriend . of course he respects you and treats you like a friend . dont hold your breath . you should get on with your life their are lots of guys out their enough for every girl so dont waste your time chasing moonbeams good luck .
Maybe he just wants attention. Leave him to it and he'll come running back 2 u. Just don't let him mess with your mind cos seems like either:
A) He's p i s s e d off at you for some reason or that you've upset him
B) He's playing games to mess with your mind.
Maybe he wants u to tell him how u feel.
Just be honest and say it how it is and see what he says.
goodluck
I think he is playing games with ya. You don't need that.
We got really close to each other a lot. But every time, something happens and we stop talking.
I hadn't been talking to him for about a year now, it's was a shame because i really liked him, and i thought about him too.
A few weeks ago, he text me, saying that he'll always be there for me even if we don't talk anymore.
I replied. And then for about two weeks we got really close, closer than i've ever felt to him.
we text each other all the time. He talked about how much he loved me and how much he wanted to see me,
one time he said, 'You're amazing, i can't describe how special you really are to me, i love you so much, i never want to let you go baby.'
I reaaally loved him.
And then he stopped talking to me, he didn't even want to look at me,
I have no idea what made him change his mind about me, it's just upsetting. I asked him about it, and he said, 'nothing's changed' And then reluctantly told me he loves me.
I don't know what to do anymore. Please help.Advice about this boy?
Ok, this is another thing were guys are confusing to girls and girls are confusing to guys.
Most likely he wasnt playing games. like what ruined me and megans relationship (as bff's) was when her best girl friend said to me how much megans dislikes me and how she will never be with me.
that made me sad and made me not want to talk to her. but i still cried and i still do about her. now i am trying to be with her because i love her. i want to be with her and i think 1 of the following things has happend...
Someone said u dislike or hate him.
Someone said u think he is really anoying
He thinks u dont want to talk to him so he is giving ur space
He is just so sad he cant talk to you becaue he doesent want to make it worse (what ever IT is)
Doesent like u anymore
Or he could be playing game s(dought it but its possible)
Now those are some ideas. that is kinda listed in order the i beleave to dont beleave.
but i say ask him to go to the movies or just to hang out. if he says im busy say, how about on wednessday? then when u hang out talk to him and tell him you really love him and tell him how u feel about that hole not looking at u thing. He will proboly understand and then ask him why that happend.
hope it helpedAdvice about this boy?
sorry love but i think your wasting your time as it seems to me at least if he had a real romantic interest in you you would not have to chase him . you also mention he has a girlfriend . of course he respects you and treats you like a friend . dont hold your breath . you should get on with your life their are lots of guys out their enough for every girl so dont waste your time chasing moonbeams good luck .
Maybe he just wants attention. Leave him to it and he'll come running back 2 u. Just don't let him mess with your mind cos seems like either:
A) He's p i s s e d off at you for some reason or that you've upset him
B) He's playing games to mess with your mind.
Maybe he wants u to tell him how u feel.
Just be honest and say it how it is and see what he says.
goodluck
I think he is playing games with ya. You don't need that.
I need some advice about moving...?
I am getting a divorce and just had back surgery....I will be taking my daughter at least 9 hours away from our home state. I have NO money saved up and I plan on getting a job before I leave, and doing some online work to raise cash. When August comes, Im gonna just pack up what I didnt sell, and roll on out. I intend to have a place to move to before I go...Any thoughts on this? Advice? Support? Think Im crazy? Let me knowI need some advice about moving...?
sounds like you have a plan......no you aren't crazy......go make a new life for you and your daughterI need some advice about moving...?
Don't move your daughter away from her father.
Sometimes a geographical change is just what the doctor ordered. And then sometimes it does not work. Good luck in your life.
Well why r you leaving like that. It sounds like your scare of your soon to be ex husband. Yeah I guess if your getting a job i think you will be fine....just make sure you have about 5000 in cash that way in case you cannot get a job right away you have some money.
sounds like you have a plan......no you aren't crazy......go make a new life for you and your daughterI need some advice about moving...?
Don't move your daughter away from her father.
Sometimes a geographical change is just what the doctor ordered. And then sometimes it does not work. Good luck in your life.
Well why r you leaving like that. It sounds like your scare of your soon to be ex husband. Yeah I guess if your getting a job i think you will be fine....just make sure you have about 5000 in cash that way in case you cannot get a job right away you have some money.
I need your advice about a guy?
In a lapse of judgment, I gave a guy my number after only talking to him for a couple minutes. Just so you know, I 'm usually smarter than that and I don't do this.
I don't know him at all. Again, I only talked to him for a couple minutes. He keeps calling me (at least twice a day). What should I do?
I need your advice about a guy?
Tell him that you aren't interested in him, and that you are sorry. If he need you to, tell him that you know some other people that may like him. Make sure you don't sound rude or mean, but nice and sympathetic. he probably thinks you like him, so you need to say that you don'tI need your advice about a guy?
If you like him then let him talk to you. But i can see you probably don't like him in that way. You could tell him you have a boyfriend, or you could be straight with him and tell him that you are only interested in being friends (maybe not even that) and that a relationship will not work out.
he try to get a date with you.
just tell him that your busy.
I don't know him at all. Again, I only talked to him for a couple minutes. He keeps calling me (at least twice a day). What should I do?
I need your advice about a guy?
Tell him that you aren't interested in him, and that you are sorry. If he need you to, tell him that you know some other people that may like him. Make sure you don't sound rude or mean, but nice and sympathetic. he probably thinks you like him, so you need to say that you don'tI need your advice about a guy?
If you like him then let him talk to you. But i can see you probably don't like him in that way. You could tell him you have a boyfriend, or you could be straight with him and tell him that you are only interested in being friends (maybe not even that) and that a relationship will not work out.
he try to get a date with you.
just tell him that your busy.
I need some advice about a girl i realy like but so far i havent talked to?
I always find that the girls i like are the ones that have no interest in me i need some advice on how to talk to this one because im sick and tired of going out with people i dont find very interesting at all.I need some advice about a girl i realy like but so far i havent talked to?
i think u should just be yourself. if she is really worth your liking, then there is a chance she might like you too. Be confident, because that is one thing that girls always fall for. if u find her an interesting person, talk to her about something u think she'll want to talk about. show her u want to get to know her and like her as a person. and if shes right for u, it'll happen :)I need some advice about a girl i realy like but so far i havent talked to?
Well...play a little romeo. Leave her a flower with a note ';from a secret admirer';. guess its a first step and take it from there.
Go up to her and just talk to her. Muster up some courage and DO IT!! Girls like guys who have the b@lls to say something. Buy her a single flower, not a rose, but something pretty, and say to her, ';I saw this today and thought of you, so I had to buy it for you';... see her reaction then!!!
Good luck!
ok i used to have the same problem. this is what i found. Just be Proud of you. be exactly who you are and let everyone know that your proud of it. don't be afraid to talk to anyone. just go up and talk. even if it's just saying hey and asking how she is... i'm telling you most women like a confident man so that's what you have to be. hope it helps a little. let me know how things work out.
i think u should just be yourself. if she is really worth your liking, then there is a chance she might like you too. Be confident, because that is one thing that girls always fall for. if u find her an interesting person, talk to her about something u think she'll want to talk about. show her u want to get to know her and like her as a person. and if shes right for u, it'll happen :)I need some advice about a girl i realy like but so far i havent talked to?
Well...play a little romeo. Leave her a flower with a note ';from a secret admirer';. guess its a first step and take it from there.
Go up to her and just talk to her. Muster up some courage and DO IT!! Girls like guys who have the b@lls to say something. Buy her a single flower, not a rose, but something pretty, and say to her, ';I saw this today and thought of you, so I had to buy it for you';... see her reaction then!!!
Good luck!
ok i used to have the same problem. this is what i found. Just be Proud of you. be exactly who you are and let everyone know that your proud of it. don't be afraid to talk to anyone. just go up and talk. even if it's just saying hey and asking how she is... i'm telling you most women like a confident man so that's what you have to be. hope it helps a little. let me know how things work out.
I need your advice about my mother's problem.....?
My mother is 75 and since I remember she used to provoke jeoulsy between her children to force them to do things that she wanted....For example if my brother wouldn't study she would tell him how my sister was good at school.and if my sister was not obeying what she wanted she would tell her how wise and mature my brother was and if I was naughty she would tell how my brother and sister were and would never do such a things I were doing.....well the result is that none of the children have good relationship with each other and of course with her now....although she was a wonderful mother and was very caring and had sacrifised everything in her life for the sake of her children....even now when she wants something from me she does the same thing she first admires my brother or my sister in front of me because of what she desires and then she asks me what she wants me to do.she is old and fragile now ...so what can I do when I get angry with this?I need your advice about my mother's problem.....?
Do we know each other ?You are describing my mom to boot.They are manipulators.Do only what you can for herI need your advice about my mother's problem.....?
My grandmother is that way. I thought about it one day and I came to this conclusion: She probably ain't gonna change and I'll just have to accept it. As hard as that sounds, ya know, she's in her golden years and I wouldn't want her to leave me on bad terms. Don't let this put a cleft between you all. Try to focus more on the good times with each other.
Forgive %26amp; forget it it's in the past.Deal with it %26amp; move on.
“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], ';uff,'; and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” [Quran 17: 23]
“And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.” [Quran 31:14]
“…No mother should be harmed through her child, and no father through his child…” [Quran 2: 233]
';…My Lord and Sustainer! Be kind and have mercy on them as they cherished, nurtured and sustained me in childhood.” [Quran 17: 24]
Once a companion asked the Prophet as to whom he should show more kindness. The Prophet replied: ';Your mother.'; He asked who comes next and the Prophet again replied: ';Your mother.'; He asked the Prophet yet again who comes next. The Prophet replied: “Your mother.'; When the companion asked for the fourth time, only then did the Prophet reply: ';Your father.';
Start comparing her to other mothers who would never do such a thing.
Since you already knew your mother from the very first start I suggest you just keep it astride and don't get jealous and pityful, remember your mom is already in his twilight years any moment or time now she will be called by our maker. So there will be no more mom to talk too or see.
Just imagine the good things you two do when you are still a child, regardless of what she does to any of your sister or brother, she is just a good story teller to make each and every one of you to move on and strive hard in this life. In other words she challenge you all to think for yourself because in the end she will be gone and will be just brothers and sisters, that is what's life is all about. Think positive not just dwell on the past, we can never returned to the past but definitely look up for the future. Will you still dwell in the past?
She learnt how to manipulate you all and it worked! You should do only what you can since you already know that this is her method of getting things done. There is no point in being jealous or trying to outdo your siblings, you're all adults with your own lives so it's petty to let it carry on. If you get angry with her about it, instead of blowing up or sulking, just laugh and say in a jocular way that you learnt long ago that she tries to 'trick' you into doing things and then say what you are able to do and will do depending on her request. She may not do it next time...
what can you do? except dont repeat the cycle with your own children ..we learn from our experiences and i bet your kids will have a great relationship with eachother but they will resent you for other reasons ,no one is a perfect parent and there are no model children ..thank your mom for doing her best and hope that you can do yours...and think of all the great things she told your siblings about you......learn to forgive
Do we know each other ?You are describing my mom to boot.They are manipulators.Do only what you can for herI need your advice about my mother's problem.....?
My grandmother is that way. I thought about it one day and I came to this conclusion: She probably ain't gonna change and I'll just have to accept it. As hard as that sounds, ya know, she's in her golden years and I wouldn't want her to leave me on bad terms. Don't let this put a cleft between you all. Try to focus more on the good times with each other.
Forgive %26amp; forget it it's in the past.Deal with it %26amp; move on.
“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], ';uff,'; and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” [Quran 17: 23]
“And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.” [Quran 31:14]
“…No mother should be harmed through her child, and no father through his child…” [Quran 2: 233]
';…My Lord and Sustainer! Be kind and have mercy on them as they cherished, nurtured and sustained me in childhood.” [Quran 17: 24]
Once a companion asked the Prophet as to whom he should show more kindness. The Prophet replied: ';Your mother.'; He asked who comes next and the Prophet again replied: ';Your mother.'; He asked the Prophet yet again who comes next. The Prophet replied: “Your mother.'; When the companion asked for the fourth time, only then did the Prophet reply: ';Your father.';
Start comparing her to other mothers who would never do such a thing.
Since you already knew your mother from the very first start I suggest you just keep it astride and don't get jealous and pityful, remember your mom is already in his twilight years any moment or time now she will be called by our maker. So there will be no more mom to talk too or see.
Just imagine the good things you two do when you are still a child, regardless of what she does to any of your sister or brother, she is just a good story teller to make each and every one of you to move on and strive hard in this life. In other words she challenge you all to think for yourself because in the end she will be gone and will be just brothers and sisters, that is what's life is all about. Think positive not just dwell on the past, we can never returned to the past but definitely look up for the future. Will you still dwell in the past?
She learnt how to manipulate you all and it worked! You should do only what you can since you already know that this is her method of getting things done. There is no point in being jealous or trying to outdo your siblings, you're all adults with your own lives so it's petty to let it carry on. If you get angry with her about it, instead of blowing up or sulking, just laugh and say in a jocular way that you learnt long ago that she tries to 'trick' you into doing things and then say what you are able to do and will do depending on her request. She may not do it next time...
what can you do? except dont repeat the cycle with your own children ..we learn from our experiences and i bet your kids will have a great relationship with eachother but they will resent you for other reasons ,no one is a perfect parent and there are no model children ..thank your mom for doing her best and hope that you can do yours...and think of all the great things she told your siblings about you......learn to forgive
I need some advice about my Doctor.....?
At my last appt. he didn't check me or anything and told me he'd see me in a week. Then I went to schedule and they did it for 3 weeks! I am 38 weeks pregnant now! I will not see him until the week after my due date. He doesn't even have another Dr taking his patients. They said if I have a problem go to the hospital. I am so angry. I have had complications with my hips/back and pelvis area and he just keeps giving me pain meds. I am in SO much pain, nothing is working and he didn't even care! I was induced with my 1st one and I would like to be induced with this one because I have been measuring big this entire time and he said I am just going to have a big baby, but then he never gave me a ultrasound. What do I do? I would just go into the hospital but everytime I do that they say they need to speak with my DR. I don't understand they leave me in a situation I have no control over. What do I do at this point? I was having pains yesterday but didn't even have a Dr to call... so II need some advice about my Doctor.....?
sounds like you should make a complaint against this doctor. What he is doing is not right. You should be getting an u/s if they say it's going to be a big baby b/c you might need a c-section.I need some advice about my Doctor.....?
Where is your doctor, on vaction or something. They have to have an oncall doctor. If you have problems call the office, they will get you to someone.
well first off I think you should NOT be on any pain meds
this is not natural.
Second you DO just need to tough it out.
If the doctor isn't there then the doctor in the hospital delivers the baby.
Honestly your the only one who actually NEEDS to be there to push the baby out
As far as measurements, they mean nothing
I was told my baby would be 10 pounds or more but he was only 7lbs
my sister inlaw was told the same thing and her baby was only 5 lbs
As far as induction? Why would you want to force your baby out early, wait and when your doctor comes back you will be full term and then the induction will be fine.
And from your message it seems you have been running to the hospital quite a bit, so your familiar now that they agree with your doctor.
My suggestion is this, think about your baby first
then think about YOU.
Having babies hurts, being pregnant hurts, being a mother hurts, I have 3 of them its painful
But I suck it up , I tough it out for my baby's health
I fractured my tailbone and pelvis and took NO pain meds
and delivered naturally.
I am not saying your faking your pain, but i am saying that everything you put into your body goes into the baby
after he/she is delivered she could go thru withdrawl symptoms, unless your breastfeeding , in which case you will continue to give her the pain meds via breast milk
Something to think about.
Good luck
Meg
Call other Dr's office and ask their advice. Some are wary of taking on a patient so far along but it's extenuating circumstances. If that doesnt work, go to the ER, tell them you dont have a doctor, you've never seen a doctor during your pregnancy and you need help.
Oh My goodness! I feel so bad for you! I would be so furious! I don't know what I would do, that is so unprofessional and they should see you every week in the last part of your pregnancy! What was the reason they gave? I know I would not be comfortable with him delivering my child, thats for sure! I would call another doctor and tell them your situation, maybe someone will be compassionate enough to help you out. You need an ultrasound to check the baby's weight, to check and see if he's head down, and they need to check if you are dilated! Is there another hospital in your area? Good luck and I am so sorry you are in this situation.
Find a different doc. Call a new doc's office and explain your situation, I am sure you will find one who will see you immediately. I can't believe he hasn't given you an ultrasound at all. What kind of doc is he?
I would be VERY angry too! I am sorry that this has happened to you. If the pain gets to bad go to the ER they can not refuse to see you especially once you tell them your doctor is unreachable. I thought that doctors had to have an on-call doctor for situations like this.
that is crazy. at this point your dr should most certainly be on top of your care. why did they schedule you for 3 weeks out??? i would demand an earlier appt. no longer than a week. and demand answers about the size of your baby, the ultrasound, etc. and what the best route for you at this point would be (whether it be induction, a section or what). i dont understand some of these drs i hear about on here. i am so sorry you are having so much trouble with yours.
I was shocked to read about your situation!I would call my insurance company tell them everything and they should refer you to another OB.No ultra sounds???Isn't he afraid of a lawsuit?
If there is any other ob/gyn in town or a different hospital, call them and explain your problem. You need to be seen by a competent professional and it you are being treated this way, so may other women using your current doctor. If there's not another doctor, check and see if there's a midwife. Anything would be better than this kind of treatment.
Good luck!
I would definitely call your doctors nurse. I think it's absolutely CRAZY that he would leave with no other doctor on call to see you! I would let her know that you are not ok with the fact that you are in so much pain and there is no doctor to see and ask for a referral for TODAY! If she tells you to go the the ER I would refuse and tell her that you are not hanging up the phone until you have a referral.
Very Best Wishes!
#1 an ultrasound is no more accurate then a clinical assessment (from palpating the baby) to determine fetal weight in the latter half of pregnancy.
#2 Most moms measure 2cm bigger their second pregnancy, its not a big deal and it doesn't mean you are having a big baby.
#3 A doctor or OB has no training in assisting you with your back/hip/pelvic pain. He should have referred you to a physical or occupational therapist. As he didn't you can still get relief from seeing a chiropractor. For a list of a few trained in prenatal care: http://www.icpa4kids.org
#4 Just guessing but by ';check you'; you mean he didn't check for dilation and effacement of the cervix. Dilation and effacement are extremely poor predictors of labour. And even if they weren't what difference would it make? Whether he said you had 2 days left or 2 weeks left wouldn't change the fact that your baby will come when your baby is ready.
I am sorry but the fact of the matter is nobody has much control over pregnancy. We can pretend, we can run all sorts of prenatal tests to make us feel like we do but we don't. We can also treat pregnancy like a disease and over-manage it and put both mom and baby at risk. Inductions are risky in and of themselves, but they also tend to lead to even more interventions that are worse.
If you are really concerned go to the hospital and demand treatment, but you can't force any doctor to do something they consider unethical and many would consider an unneeded induction to be unethical. They can check your baby's heart rate and give you a second opinion on fetal size (which can be off by as much as 2lbs both through ultrasounds and clinical examination). If you are very lucky they might get a physiotherapist down to show you some exercises, but that's about it.
I would make an appointment with another doctor. Tell him the situation and your concerns. If anything, you could get checked out. Maybe a second opinion. Remember, you hired your doctor to see to your care. You can also fire him. If you are not comfortable with him, then find someone else.
If you are having pains or need to be checked out, don't be afraid to go to the hospital if you feel the need to. Better to be cautious than to ignore these things.
If you go to the hospital and feel that you are not getting the treatment you need, ask to speak to the patient advocate. Their job is to hear your concerns and try to resolve the issue.
If your doctor has seen you your entire pregnancy then I am sure that he/she has a good reason for this. If everything is healthy there is really no reason to see you this close to the end, seeing you after your due date makes sense to see where's the baby and see if he/she can get things moving. If you really want to see the doctor sooner, start having sex that helped get things moving for both of our pregnancies. Congrats you will meet your baby soon!
It sounds like you are fixing to go into labor to me. I would say to go to a different doctor and completely explain the situation and tell them that you have not had an ultasound. What kind of insurance do you have (medicaid, tricare, etc.) first of all? Normally you will have to call the insurance company and ask to swtich doctors, and if they ask you why so far into your pregnancy then explain to them what has been going on and don't leave anything out. Hope this helps.new eyeshadow
sounds like you should make a complaint against this doctor. What he is doing is not right. You should be getting an u/s if they say it's going to be a big baby b/c you might need a c-section.I need some advice about my Doctor.....?
Where is your doctor, on vaction or something. They have to have an oncall doctor. If you have problems call the office, they will get you to someone.
well first off I think you should NOT be on any pain meds
this is not natural.
Second you DO just need to tough it out.
If the doctor isn't there then the doctor in the hospital delivers the baby.
Honestly your the only one who actually NEEDS to be there to push the baby out
As far as measurements, they mean nothing
I was told my baby would be 10 pounds or more but he was only 7lbs
my sister inlaw was told the same thing and her baby was only 5 lbs
As far as induction? Why would you want to force your baby out early, wait and when your doctor comes back you will be full term and then the induction will be fine.
And from your message it seems you have been running to the hospital quite a bit, so your familiar now that they agree with your doctor.
My suggestion is this, think about your baby first
then think about YOU.
Having babies hurts, being pregnant hurts, being a mother hurts, I have 3 of them its painful
But I suck it up , I tough it out for my baby's health
I fractured my tailbone and pelvis and took NO pain meds
and delivered naturally.
I am not saying your faking your pain, but i am saying that everything you put into your body goes into the baby
after he/she is delivered she could go thru withdrawl symptoms, unless your breastfeeding , in which case you will continue to give her the pain meds via breast milk
Something to think about.
Good luck
Meg
Call other Dr's office and ask their advice. Some are wary of taking on a patient so far along but it's extenuating circumstances. If that doesnt work, go to the ER, tell them you dont have a doctor, you've never seen a doctor during your pregnancy and you need help.
Oh My goodness! I feel so bad for you! I would be so furious! I don't know what I would do, that is so unprofessional and they should see you every week in the last part of your pregnancy! What was the reason they gave? I know I would not be comfortable with him delivering my child, thats for sure! I would call another doctor and tell them your situation, maybe someone will be compassionate enough to help you out. You need an ultrasound to check the baby's weight, to check and see if he's head down, and they need to check if you are dilated! Is there another hospital in your area? Good luck and I am so sorry you are in this situation.
Find a different doc. Call a new doc's office and explain your situation, I am sure you will find one who will see you immediately. I can't believe he hasn't given you an ultrasound at all. What kind of doc is he?
I would be VERY angry too! I am sorry that this has happened to you. If the pain gets to bad go to the ER they can not refuse to see you especially once you tell them your doctor is unreachable. I thought that doctors had to have an on-call doctor for situations like this.
that is crazy. at this point your dr should most certainly be on top of your care. why did they schedule you for 3 weeks out??? i would demand an earlier appt. no longer than a week. and demand answers about the size of your baby, the ultrasound, etc. and what the best route for you at this point would be (whether it be induction, a section or what). i dont understand some of these drs i hear about on here. i am so sorry you are having so much trouble with yours.
I was shocked to read about your situation!I would call my insurance company tell them everything and they should refer you to another OB.No ultra sounds???Isn't he afraid of a lawsuit?
If there is any other ob/gyn in town or a different hospital, call them and explain your problem. You need to be seen by a competent professional and it you are being treated this way, so may other women using your current doctor. If there's not another doctor, check and see if there's a midwife. Anything would be better than this kind of treatment.
Good luck!
I would definitely call your doctors nurse. I think it's absolutely CRAZY that he would leave with no other doctor on call to see you! I would let her know that you are not ok with the fact that you are in so much pain and there is no doctor to see and ask for a referral for TODAY! If she tells you to go the the ER I would refuse and tell her that you are not hanging up the phone until you have a referral.
Very Best Wishes!
#1 an ultrasound is no more accurate then a clinical assessment (from palpating the baby) to determine fetal weight in the latter half of pregnancy.
#2 Most moms measure 2cm bigger their second pregnancy, its not a big deal and it doesn't mean you are having a big baby.
#3 A doctor or OB has no training in assisting you with your back/hip/pelvic pain. He should have referred you to a physical or occupational therapist. As he didn't you can still get relief from seeing a chiropractor. For a list of a few trained in prenatal care: http://www.icpa4kids.org
#4 Just guessing but by ';check you'; you mean he didn't check for dilation and effacement of the cervix. Dilation and effacement are extremely poor predictors of labour. And even if they weren't what difference would it make? Whether he said you had 2 days left or 2 weeks left wouldn't change the fact that your baby will come when your baby is ready.
I am sorry but the fact of the matter is nobody has much control over pregnancy. We can pretend, we can run all sorts of prenatal tests to make us feel like we do but we don't. We can also treat pregnancy like a disease and over-manage it and put both mom and baby at risk. Inductions are risky in and of themselves, but they also tend to lead to even more interventions that are worse.
If you are really concerned go to the hospital and demand treatment, but you can't force any doctor to do something they consider unethical and many would consider an unneeded induction to be unethical. They can check your baby's heart rate and give you a second opinion on fetal size (which can be off by as much as 2lbs both through ultrasounds and clinical examination). If you are very lucky they might get a physiotherapist down to show you some exercises, but that's about it.
I would make an appointment with another doctor. Tell him the situation and your concerns. If anything, you could get checked out. Maybe a second opinion. Remember, you hired your doctor to see to your care. You can also fire him. If you are not comfortable with him, then find someone else.
If you are having pains or need to be checked out, don't be afraid to go to the hospital if you feel the need to. Better to be cautious than to ignore these things.
If you go to the hospital and feel that you are not getting the treatment you need, ask to speak to the patient advocate. Their job is to hear your concerns and try to resolve the issue.
If your doctor has seen you your entire pregnancy then I am sure that he/she has a good reason for this. If everything is healthy there is really no reason to see you this close to the end, seeing you after your due date makes sense to see where's the baby and see if he/she can get things moving. If you really want to see the doctor sooner, start having sex that helped get things moving for both of our pregnancies. Congrats you will meet your baby soon!
It sounds like you are fixing to go into labor to me. I would say to go to a different doctor and completely explain the situation and tell them that you have not had an ultasound. What kind of insurance do you have (medicaid, tricare, etc.) first of all? Normally you will have to call the insurance company and ask to swtich doctors, and if they ask you why so far into your pregnancy then explain to them what has been going on and don't leave anything out. Hope this helps.
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