i just asked a question about how to make my breastmilk dry up. I nursed for 4 days.
it is now day 5.
i would just like to add that i am no longer breastfeeding.
now my boobs are sore, leaking and super hard!
please help!!Please help!! need advice about boobs....?
I just had this talk with my Dr, as I am about to give birth to my second child, whom I don't plan on breastfeeding like I did with my first one. First off, they don't give pills or shots anymore to clear it up. Second, NEVER use warm water or cloths, as this makes you leak and will help produce more milk, use ice packs or frozen cabbage in a sports type bra. My Dr said my hospital will supply you with plenty of ice packs or even put the cabbage in the freezer if I supply it! get lots of nursing pads, a few sports bras, some ice, and Tylenol (as you may get a fever) for engorgement. It may take a few weeks...Please help!! need advice about boobs....?
This may sound a little strange, but my doctor had me put cabbage leaves in my bra. The coolness of the leaves felt wonderful and it drew the soreness out of them (the leaves will actually wilt from the heat of your breasts). In a few days your milk should dry up, also taking Alieve will help. Good luck!
how old is your baby? and why stop breast feeding? its a lot healthier for your baby than formula feeding.
All you can do is stop nursing to make them dry up, it'll take up to a week, and there gonna be sore....Don't pump to relieve the pain cause it'll just make it worse. gl
why would you stop breast feeding at 4 days!?
This is going to sound ridiculous and when my doctor told me I laughed. When I wanted to dry my milk after they were on the bottle, he said to put a single cabbage leaf on to each breast. Your milk will dry up in a day or so. IT WORKS!
You can talk to your doctor about pills to help them dry up but until then you have to try warm water on them or like i did, put cold peas in your bra for a week with tighter than normal bras
all you can do is leave them alone i breastfeed for a week and i just stop and now my baby is two months and there all dry.
You should buy a breastpump anyway and try to pump out the remaining milk. You are risking milk fever, if you don't have it already. Ask your OB about pain relief , and tell them you chose not to breastfeed,they should give you a prescription to help dry them. up. Congrats on your new baby :)
of course you're going to feel engorged.
You can talk to you doc about pills to help you dry up, some say put frozen cabbage leaves in your bra
To relieve the pain now, put a warm wash cloth over your breasts or run them under warm water
Now that you've established your milk supply you should really ween it down... Like pump a couple of times a day just enough to relieve pressure. Less and less each day until you are dried up... I can't imagine why if you have a good milk supply and the baby latches well you wouldn't want to continue breast feeding...
Anyhow... You can soak your breasts in large bowls of warm water. Some will leak out but if you do not stimulate them your breasts won't think it needs to make more. It will just relieve some of the pressure. I know some birth control pills will cause your milk supply to dry up. They have pills at the Dr's... The refrigerated cabbage leaves really act as contoured cold packs. Mostly helpful for mastitis...
Also wear a tight fitting bra like a sports bra. Do not let the water run on them in the shower or stimulate them at all!!!
You should have called your hospitals lactation consultant about the bleeding nipples!!! OUCH. You can use Lansino if your nipples are still uncomfortable. You can still call labor and delivery and ask them this question. The nurses know this stuff and know you... It sounds like it will help you to actually TALK to a knowledgeable person tonight!!!
It is going to take time. You can use cold cabbage leaves in your bra to help releive the pain. Also, if you shower in hot water some of the milk will come out. If you pump you will just make more milk to replace the stuff you took out.
Friday, January 8, 2010
I need some advice about my g.f?
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 months now and it's been great. I can trust her totally. But she talks 2 WAY too many guys. I'm pretty sure a lot of them flirt with her. I mean I don't want to be an *** though and say to stop hanging with guys from now on. And to worsen the matter she started talking to one of my best friends. So now hes on her top on myspace and vice versa. I also saw the picture comment he left and he called her sexy :'(. I love her and don't wanna break up with her though! This f*cking sucks! Can anyone be kind enuff to find a solution so I don't have to break up with her?I need some advice about my g.f?
Wut up.
So how old are you? I'm guessing later high school or college? I don't know many 40 year olds that use facebook and myspace, lol. Alright, let's get to the question...
You're worried that your girl is going to dump you for your best friend, all while you're just sitting there watching it happen in front of your eyes, right?
You're the guy that is comitted to her - but she's almost drifting away from you. Don't get me wrong - she still likes you - but she sure seems to spend a lot of time doing this so called ';flirting'; with other men. And to top it off she has guys leaving ';sexy'; comments on her myspace?!
Hey - if you haven't guess it already - I can relate. Yup. Been there and done that. How did it turn out. Well, I could just quote you by saying that ';it f**king sucked';. Need I say more?
Now, before I continue, you make the choice.
Sit here watching your relationship slowly dwindling away. Watch her become MORE attracted to other men and leave you.
OR
Stop trying to ';hold'; onto this girl. YOU get the power back in the relationship and learn how you can stop worrying about your girl leaving you for other guys.
Sound good? I thought so.
Have you actually told her to stop hanging out with other guys? I hope you haven't....
Uhh, let's see, now she's advancing on your best friends? Even made it as one of her top friends?! (Lol, I laugh because I have dial-up and myspace = SLOW!)
What to do...Hmm...
You don't want to break up with her. That's for sure. I can still tell you like this girl. Which is good. That's why I'm helping.
What's my solution?
ENCOURAGE this girl to be more independent. Huh?
Brock, you're completely insane, then she's just going to dump me even faster!
Listen for just a minute...
You're not the first guy that's gone through this before. But what have 99% of other men tried to do when this happens to them? They try to HOLD on to her. They DON'T encourage a woman to be more indpendent. What happens?
The women does it even more and will end up leaving sooner or later. It's a fact.
Kind of like the cookie in the cookie jar. The more your mom told you NOT to grab it, the more you just had to have a taste.
Catch my drift?
Also, by actually ENCOURAGING this girl to go out, YOU become more attractive. Why?
You're communicating that you're not needy. You're not worried about other guys. You know that she'll come back to you. You're confident and you're the natural born leader.
It also says that you have your OWN life. That you can handle her being out with other people - it's actually a good thing in a relationship!
So here's what I would do..
# 1 - Go back to dial-up. Then you'll be forced to not use myspace, facebook, etc. Honestly, myspace can ruin relationships. Learn to live without it. You'll thank me later.
# 2 - Show that you're the one in control of the relationship. Let her have her fun and go out with other guys.
Let's say you're talking with her on the phone...
You - ';Wut up.';
Her - ';Nothing, just planning to go out tonight?';
You - ';Oh, yeah, I was going to tell you. I'm busy tonight going out with the guys and tommorow I'm going to (some place).';
Her - ';Oh, really, with who?';
You - ';Haha...who ever shows up. It's gonna be a good time. You said you're going out tonight?';
Her - ';yeah.';
You - ';Good. Actually have some fun tonight. You ALWAYS seem to have your butt glued to that couch. I hate to say it - but I can't be dating a girl that watches more TV than me!';
Her - ';yeah right?!';
You - ';Hey, I'm being honest. You're going to get a bigger booty and pretty soon you won't even be able to fit in my car. How are we going to go anywhere together? Think about it.';
Can you see what I'm doing here? You're communicating that you're independent, you're qualifying her to be your girlfriend, and you're having a good time.
Also, this will create ATTRACTION. Bingo! That's what you need. Quit worrying about the other guys - let them worry abotu you.
Get the idea?
I'll leave it at that, but, you know, shoot me an email because I would like to help you out more.
Yeah, go ahead and email me at
brockdarock33@gmail.com
and I'd be more than willing to help you out.
Brock
P.S. DUDE! I just read that message you wrote. Horrible! You're killing it! Listen to what I'm saying - I'm here to help!I need some advice about my g.f?
i think u shuld tell her how u feel instead of getting jealous cuz that can lead to destroying the freindship with ur best friend. ur gf may talk to alot of guys but they culd just be talking not flirting.soo mabe talk to ur friend to and say lay off my girl.sumin nicer tho
Jealousy is a relationship killer, trust me....
You need to talk with her, and put your feelings out there. At least she will know how you feel about the apparent ';flirting.'; You also need to know about what she is feeling, too. Maybe she likes the attention, or maybe she is just friendly. You won't know until you have an honest heart-to-heart.
It could be harmless flirting.
You need to observe if her flirting leads to more or if it just stops there.
You should be happy that so many guys find your girlfriend so sexy. It should make you feel good because you are the one that has her not them. And if you trust her and there is no proof that she is being unfaithful, you should just get over it and enjoy your relationship with her. Take it as a compliment that so many find her so attractive.
Tell her you thought you and her were in a relationship and you don't appreciate her talking to so many guys in that flirting type of manner. Ask her if it would bother her to see the same from you?
You should ask yourself if maybe you two should just date so you both can do your own thing and trust wont be an issue.
I am a girl who hangs out with more guys than girls. The reason is because girls are always about some type of drama. Also you should talk to your friend about the comments he made. It is not her fault. Who cares if she put him on her top friends it is because she likes you and probably wants to get along with your friends rather they dont like her and so on. If you break it off with her than your friend might move in because thay will think you are being childish and she deserves to be with someone else.....When you started talking to her you knew what kind of friends she had and I wouldnt judge her by that. if she wanted to be with them then i am sure she would have already would have been
It may be hard as i find it hard talkin to my boyfrined about my feelings but you should tellher how you feel, if you get it off your chest an talk to her about it you will feel alot better as i always feel better when iv spoke to my boyfriend about something thats bothering me
Wait and hope. There must be trust in a relationship. Talk to her and listen to what she says. It might not be what you want to hear.
i have a solution. talk to her! she is allowed to have friends, guys or girls and it is good to see you understand that. they might flirt with her but what does she do in response? does she tell them to stop, tell them she has a boyfriend? etc etc
you can not tell her to stop hanging out with guys. if you do not trust her then you need to talk to her. not blaming or accusing her of anything but just letting her know how you feel. but at the same time she needs to know there are boundaries with you and your friends. besides, myspace is an online thing. so it could mean nothing.
you have only been with her for 2 months, so you need to address this problem as soon as possible.
honestly my gurl just did the same **** all her friends were tellin me **** and then she finally told me the truth but idk im still with mine and were doin ok so just ask her about it.
dont tell her not to hang out with guys thats just wrong.
Just tell her exactly what you told us. that you love her, that you wish she wouldn't talk to so many guys, but that she shouldn't stop talking to guys entirely!
A little communication should do the trick!
Good luck!
just go up 2 her and in a kind matter ask her if she really likes u........then go 2 ur frend and ask him if he has an ongoing relationship wiv ur gf.....or if he evr did........(remember ask politely).....
let ur gf have other guy frends but dont let them take over her.....and as 4 the sexy thingy.....my bf's frend also calls me sexy but not in a way that he wants to capture me!!
hope i helped!!!!!
Wut up.
So how old are you? I'm guessing later high school or college? I don't know many 40 year olds that use facebook and myspace, lol. Alright, let's get to the question...
You're worried that your girl is going to dump you for your best friend, all while you're just sitting there watching it happen in front of your eyes, right?
You're the guy that is comitted to her - but she's almost drifting away from you. Don't get me wrong - she still likes you - but she sure seems to spend a lot of time doing this so called ';flirting'; with other men. And to top it off she has guys leaving ';sexy'; comments on her myspace?!
Hey - if you haven't guess it already - I can relate. Yup. Been there and done that. How did it turn out. Well, I could just quote you by saying that ';it f**king sucked';. Need I say more?
Now, before I continue, you make the choice.
Sit here watching your relationship slowly dwindling away. Watch her become MORE attracted to other men and leave you.
OR
Stop trying to ';hold'; onto this girl. YOU get the power back in the relationship and learn how you can stop worrying about your girl leaving you for other guys.
Sound good? I thought so.
Have you actually told her to stop hanging out with other guys? I hope you haven't....
Uhh, let's see, now she's advancing on your best friends? Even made it as one of her top friends?! (Lol, I laugh because I have dial-up and myspace = SLOW!)
What to do...Hmm...
You don't want to break up with her. That's for sure. I can still tell you like this girl. Which is good. That's why I'm helping.
What's my solution?
ENCOURAGE this girl to be more independent. Huh?
Brock, you're completely insane, then she's just going to dump me even faster!
Listen for just a minute...
You're not the first guy that's gone through this before. But what have 99% of other men tried to do when this happens to them? They try to HOLD on to her. They DON'T encourage a woman to be more indpendent. What happens?
The women does it even more and will end up leaving sooner or later. It's a fact.
Kind of like the cookie in the cookie jar. The more your mom told you NOT to grab it, the more you just had to have a taste.
Catch my drift?
Also, by actually ENCOURAGING this girl to go out, YOU become more attractive. Why?
You're communicating that you're not needy. You're not worried about other guys. You know that she'll come back to you. You're confident and you're the natural born leader.
It also says that you have your OWN life. That you can handle her being out with other people - it's actually a good thing in a relationship!
So here's what I would do..
# 1 - Go back to dial-up. Then you'll be forced to not use myspace, facebook, etc. Honestly, myspace can ruin relationships. Learn to live without it. You'll thank me later.
# 2 - Show that you're the one in control of the relationship. Let her have her fun and go out with other guys.
Let's say you're talking with her on the phone...
You - ';Wut up.';
Her - ';Nothing, just planning to go out tonight?';
You - ';Oh, yeah, I was going to tell you. I'm busy tonight going out with the guys and tommorow I'm going to (some place).';
Her - ';Oh, really, with who?';
You - ';Haha...who ever shows up. It's gonna be a good time. You said you're going out tonight?';
Her - ';yeah.';
You - ';Good. Actually have some fun tonight. You ALWAYS seem to have your butt glued to that couch. I hate to say it - but I can't be dating a girl that watches more TV than me!';
Her - ';yeah right?!';
You - ';Hey, I'm being honest. You're going to get a bigger booty and pretty soon you won't even be able to fit in my car. How are we going to go anywhere together? Think about it.';
Can you see what I'm doing here? You're communicating that you're independent, you're qualifying her to be your girlfriend, and you're having a good time.
Also, this will create ATTRACTION. Bingo! That's what you need. Quit worrying about the other guys - let them worry abotu you.
Get the idea?
I'll leave it at that, but, you know, shoot me an email because I would like to help you out more.
Yeah, go ahead and email me at
brockdarock33@gmail.com
and I'd be more than willing to help you out.
Brock
P.S. DUDE! I just read that message you wrote. Horrible! You're killing it! Listen to what I'm saying - I'm here to help!I need some advice about my g.f?
i think u shuld tell her how u feel instead of getting jealous cuz that can lead to destroying the freindship with ur best friend. ur gf may talk to alot of guys but they culd just be talking not flirting.soo mabe talk to ur friend to and say lay off my girl.sumin nicer tho
Jealousy is a relationship killer, trust me....
You need to talk with her, and put your feelings out there. At least she will know how you feel about the apparent ';flirting.'; You also need to know about what she is feeling, too. Maybe she likes the attention, or maybe she is just friendly. You won't know until you have an honest heart-to-heart.
It could be harmless flirting.
You need to observe if her flirting leads to more or if it just stops there.
You should be happy that so many guys find your girlfriend so sexy. It should make you feel good because you are the one that has her not them. And if you trust her and there is no proof that she is being unfaithful, you should just get over it and enjoy your relationship with her. Take it as a compliment that so many find her so attractive.
Tell her you thought you and her were in a relationship and you don't appreciate her talking to so many guys in that flirting type of manner. Ask her if it would bother her to see the same from you?
You should ask yourself if maybe you two should just date so you both can do your own thing and trust wont be an issue.
I am a girl who hangs out with more guys than girls. The reason is because girls are always about some type of drama. Also you should talk to your friend about the comments he made. It is not her fault. Who cares if she put him on her top friends it is because she likes you and probably wants to get along with your friends rather they dont like her and so on. If you break it off with her than your friend might move in because thay will think you are being childish and she deserves to be with someone else.....When you started talking to her you knew what kind of friends she had and I wouldnt judge her by that. if she wanted to be with them then i am sure she would have already would have been
It may be hard as i find it hard talkin to my boyfrined about my feelings but you should tellher how you feel, if you get it off your chest an talk to her about it you will feel alot better as i always feel better when iv spoke to my boyfriend about something thats bothering me
Wait and hope. There must be trust in a relationship. Talk to her and listen to what she says. It might not be what you want to hear.
i have a solution. talk to her! she is allowed to have friends, guys or girls and it is good to see you understand that. they might flirt with her but what does she do in response? does she tell them to stop, tell them she has a boyfriend? etc etc
you can not tell her to stop hanging out with guys. if you do not trust her then you need to talk to her. not blaming or accusing her of anything but just letting her know how you feel. but at the same time she needs to know there are boundaries with you and your friends. besides, myspace is an online thing. so it could mean nothing.
you have only been with her for 2 months, so you need to address this problem as soon as possible.
honestly my gurl just did the same **** all her friends were tellin me **** and then she finally told me the truth but idk im still with mine and were doin ok so just ask her about it.
dont tell her not to hang out with guys thats just wrong.
Just tell her exactly what you told us. that you love her, that you wish she wouldn't talk to so many guys, but that she shouldn't stop talking to guys entirely!
A little communication should do the trick!
Good luck!
just go up 2 her and in a kind matter ask her if she really likes u........then go 2 ur frend and ask him if he has an ongoing relationship wiv ur gf.....or if he evr did........(remember ask politely).....
let ur gf have other guy frends but dont let them take over her.....and as 4 the sexy thingy.....my bf's frend also calls me sexy but not in a way that he wants to capture me!!
hope i helped!!!!!
I need some advice about my relationship. Please help?
Alright heres the story.
Me and girlfriend have been together for a while now. We recently have been having some issues with exroommates, so we decided to just move on our own. We currently are staying with her mom until our apartment is ready for us to move in.
She has a child, that isn't mine, but I love her and treat her as though she was my own! Somethings I do she deems ';rough play'; and complains to me about it. Then she turns around and does the exact same thing.
She is a Leo and I'm a Taurus. We both are hard headed and stubborn. I really love this woman with my heart and I want to marry her one day and adopt her child. But, it seems like just about anything I do just upsets her. I try my HARDEST to make her happy and it doesn't work.
When we first got together we were like love birds, couldn't be seperated. But, I feel like our love for each other is just disappearing. I love her with my heart.
I need some advice to make her happy again. PLEASE HELP!I need some advice about my relationship. Please help?
Ask her...What can I do to make you happy?I need some advice about my relationship. Please help?
You need to talk to her. A serious, open, pour it all out, talk. She's trying to protect her child, but you need to remind her that she doesn't need to protect her from you because you love her and want to adopt her. Point out to her that all the things she calls you on, you can call her on and if she doesn't believe you, then start calling her on everything. I'm also a Leo and my hubby is a Taurus. Personally, I needed to learn to let some things go. You really need to sit with her or ask her if she's interested in marriage counseling because you feel there are some things that need to be worked out while they're still small problems.
LOOK AT HER STRAIGHT IN TO HER EYES AND TALK TO HER. TRY AND FIND A TIME WHERE YOU CAN BE ALONE, AND INTERAPTED, IN A ROMANTIC RESTAURANT FOR EXAMBLE.
LET HER KNOW THAT YOU REALLY LOVE HER AND HER CHILD AND LET HER ALSO KNOW THAT YOU ARE A VERY GOOD FRIEND AS WELL AS PARTNER.
thats really sweet.
set up a really romantic night just you and her and try to set the flame in your relationship again
Talk to her and be honest with her.
I think you 2 might need to give each other breathing room, and give her reason to miss your presence. Hopefully you have friends you can hang with to give you 2 time away from each other.
talk to your girlfriend about how you feel, or write her a letter. are you sure your not being too rough with the little girl, you may not realize how rough your being. sometimes my husband can be too rough, because men don't realize how strong they are. it also could be the strain of living with her mom, and it will get better when you get your own place. just talk to her, spend a night away alone. just the two of you. good luck
waste of time ....
You can not make her happy. There must be something going on. You said you were like lovebirds in the beginning...in my years of experience(many many many) people get together because they are in lust, not in love. You screw like horny rabbits all the time, then when that dies down, there is not really much left to base a relationship on. Plus, the fact when you live with a parent, you are not going to want to get down and dirty with them around, ewwww! talk to her about it, try and get your own place asap. Give it a while after you get moved, if it does not change, you probably are in a onesided love affair, dump her and make a life for yourself, cause believe me, You can not change, or make a person love you....they either do or dont. You should not have to buy, or bribe them for affections either.....
Hie Nuef. Well to me it is better for you to try to talk to her and when you have talk to her then it is good for you to try make things up, but when she is stuborn to talk about it then it is better for you to go and talk to her mom so that things can make up, but when she was dreaming about the hard play then it is better for you to not to go for it, when you have the hard play then it had change her to make her to became more stuborn and wants to have everything in her way, but it is good that you want to marry her and adopt the child and never give up in her and when you have her then it is better for her to give her some time to change, but before that it is good that for you to try to talk to her mom then from there at least she can have a talk with her and for sure the things will change and when it have change then it is good for you to marry her. So before anything it is good for you to change her by talking to her mom. Try this and hope it might help you...................
ALL THE BEST..................
Sorry ma frnd for what is happening to you i cant imagine how you look like now because this problem is realy hard.
The only thing to do now is just have a talk with her and express your fillings towards her and ask her the things she likes the most and those which she doesnt like so that you can know what to do so as to save your love.
I hope this will help to save your love.
Have a good love life with your girlfriend.
You cant make a person happy. The have to make themselves happy. If she seems ungrateful with everything you do then, then stop doing anything for her, she doesnt appreciate it anyway.
Me and girlfriend have been together for a while now. We recently have been having some issues with exroommates, so we decided to just move on our own. We currently are staying with her mom until our apartment is ready for us to move in.
She has a child, that isn't mine, but I love her and treat her as though she was my own! Somethings I do she deems ';rough play'; and complains to me about it. Then she turns around and does the exact same thing.
She is a Leo and I'm a Taurus. We both are hard headed and stubborn. I really love this woman with my heart and I want to marry her one day and adopt her child. But, it seems like just about anything I do just upsets her. I try my HARDEST to make her happy and it doesn't work.
When we first got together we were like love birds, couldn't be seperated. But, I feel like our love for each other is just disappearing. I love her with my heart.
I need some advice to make her happy again. PLEASE HELP!I need some advice about my relationship. Please help?
Ask her...What can I do to make you happy?I need some advice about my relationship. Please help?
You need to talk to her. A serious, open, pour it all out, talk. She's trying to protect her child, but you need to remind her that she doesn't need to protect her from you because you love her and want to adopt her. Point out to her that all the things she calls you on, you can call her on and if she doesn't believe you, then start calling her on everything. I'm also a Leo and my hubby is a Taurus. Personally, I needed to learn to let some things go. You really need to sit with her or ask her if she's interested in marriage counseling because you feel there are some things that need to be worked out while they're still small problems.
LOOK AT HER STRAIGHT IN TO HER EYES AND TALK TO HER. TRY AND FIND A TIME WHERE YOU CAN BE ALONE, AND INTERAPTED, IN A ROMANTIC RESTAURANT FOR EXAMBLE.
LET HER KNOW THAT YOU REALLY LOVE HER AND HER CHILD AND LET HER ALSO KNOW THAT YOU ARE A VERY GOOD FRIEND AS WELL AS PARTNER.
thats really sweet.
set up a really romantic night just you and her and try to set the flame in your relationship again
Talk to her and be honest with her.
I think you 2 might need to give each other breathing room, and give her reason to miss your presence. Hopefully you have friends you can hang with to give you 2 time away from each other.
talk to your girlfriend about how you feel, or write her a letter. are you sure your not being too rough with the little girl, you may not realize how rough your being. sometimes my husband can be too rough, because men don't realize how strong they are. it also could be the strain of living with her mom, and it will get better when you get your own place. just talk to her, spend a night away alone. just the two of you. good luck
waste of time ....
You can not make her happy. There must be something going on. You said you were like lovebirds in the beginning...in my years of experience(many many many) people get together because they are in lust, not in love. You screw like horny rabbits all the time, then when that dies down, there is not really much left to base a relationship on. Plus, the fact when you live with a parent, you are not going to want to get down and dirty with them around, ewwww! talk to her about it, try and get your own place asap. Give it a while after you get moved, if it does not change, you probably are in a onesided love affair, dump her and make a life for yourself, cause believe me, You can not change, or make a person love you....they either do or dont. You should not have to buy, or bribe them for affections either.....
Hie Nuef. Well to me it is better for you to try to talk to her and when you have talk to her then it is good for you to try make things up, but when she is stuborn to talk about it then it is better for you to go and talk to her mom so that things can make up, but when she was dreaming about the hard play then it is better for you to not to go for it, when you have the hard play then it had change her to make her to became more stuborn and wants to have everything in her way, but it is good that you want to marry her and adopt the child and never give up in her and when you have her then it is better for her to give her some time to change, but before that it is good that for you to try to talk to her mom then from there at least she can have a talk with her and for sure the things will change and when it have change then it is good for you to marry her. So before anything it is good for you to change her by talking to her mom. Try this and hope it might help you...................
ALL THE BEST..................
Sorry ma frnd for what is happening to you i cant imagine how you look like now because this problem is realy hard.
The only thing to do now is just have a talk with her and express your fillings towards her and ask her the things she likes the most and those which she doesnt like so that you can know what to do so as to save your love.
I hope this will help to save your love.
Have a good love life with your girlfriend.
You cant make a person happy. The have to make themselves happy. If she seems ungrateful with everything you do then, then stop doing anything for her, she doesnt appreciate it anyway.
I need some advice about a guy?
She had known the guy for four years. He has said he loves her, but she can't say the same think to him back. What is really strange is that she loves him to. She has wrote him a lot of letters, but he wants her to open up more and talk to him. She can't even be in the same room with him, and she can't even look into his eyes. This has been going on for four years. She loves him with all her heart, but can't trust him. What should my friend do?I need some advice about a guy?
Blow the damn denial on up with some TNT and let the river of love flow, yo.I need some advice about a guy?
If she can't trust him, then where can relationship go? Perhaps the two of them should sit down and talk.
Open up and talk to him or lose him to someone else!!!!! Good luck
First of all, this friend has to figure out why she doesn't trust him Love is trust. If your friend CAN NOT trust her guy, well she may not really love him. then it is time to let him go. Your friend has to trust her boy friend or marriage will FAIL. She has to decide, do I trust him and if I do not why? Can I fix this trust, if not move on. It will be hard but life is hard. Your friend will have it worse if she does not walk away.
That my Friend Is called Love. When a guy is madly in love with you its so hard to break that connection.He would feel like at the bottom of the world if you leave him.
Thats how sometimes you feel.And that connection is Called
Love.You must tell him nicely dont push him to hard,still be friends with him.
Thats the you find true love?
whats is true love?
True love? or a lustful kind of love? There is a difference.
True love? The world stops around you when you look into the eyes of the one you love. No one else, nothing else seems important, but the connection that is you share with this person. And you can feel it in thier eyes. As if when they stare back into yours, that they are saying without speaking, ';I adore you, respect you, desire you, admire you';. True love is when you connect on a level that makes you want to do everything you can to make that person happy, and that they do the same in return. It is a powerful feeling, when the world stops around the two of you. You will know it.
Lustful kind of love is much different. Its the feeling that omg I have to have that person, they are so very attractive, and that I think I am in love with them. Its a false true love.
You will feel love for him in time.
That love is connection.,YOu can tell him by passing him notes.or leaving him a message.! take it slowly my friend.do that if you are shy.talk to him ,call him,,,relate your feelings towards him.he will start to understand and like you.
remember
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
if you don't have trust you basically have nothing. i know people say that alot but do you really wanna be freaking out every time he goes somewhere.... trust is what a relationship is built on.... if you cant trust him an you cant admit to him you love him, then your not being fair to him an you should let him go and find someone you can count on
You answered your own question with the last three sentences. To paraphrase ';she can't trust him';. There can be no true love without trust. Also, she can't tell him she loves him, or even be in the same room with him. IF they were to get married, that would make having children impossibe. What should she do? Move on with her life and find another.
it seems as though your ';friend'; has been hurt before or something along them lines, she first has to believe, train her mind, that she has to trust him. Tell her friend to go out with him, but not on a serious thing. Dont tell him you love him until your sure, that sorta thing. What she needs to do first though is talk to him, dont tell him you dont know whether you can trust him just explain that you feel you wanna go out but are not sure of this...
No trust - no love.
Move on.
If this is really for a friend, make sure she wants you to get involved in her life before you do anything.
Why put up with half right - you deserve the best and forget the rest.
Blow the damn denial on up with some TNT and let the river of love flow, yo.I need some advice about a guy?
If she can't trust him, then where can relationship go? Perhaps the two of them should sit down and talk.
Open up and talk to him or lose him to someone else!!!!! Good luck
First of all, this friend has to figure out why she doesn't trust him Love is trust. If your friend CAN NOT trust her guy, well she may not really love him. then it is time to let him go. Your friend has to trust her boy friend or marriage will FAIL. She has to decide, do I trust him and if I do not why? Can I fix this trust, if not move on. It will be hard but life is hard. Your friend will have it worse if she does not walk away.
That my Friend Is called Love. When a guy is madly in love with you its so hard to break that connection.He would feel like at the bottom of the world if you leave him.
Thats how sometimes you feel.And that connection is Called
Love.You must tell him nicely dont push him to hard,still be friends with him.
Thats the you find true love?
whats is true love?
True love? or a lustful kind of love? There is a difference.
True love? The world stops around you when you look into the eyes of the one you love. No one else, nothing else seems important, but the connection that is you share with this person. And you can feel it in thier eyes. As if when they stare back into yours, that they are saying without speaking, ';I adore you, respect you, desire you, admire you';. True love is when you connect on a level that makes you want to do everything you can to make that person happy, and that they do the same in return. It is a powerful feeling, when the world stops around the two of you. You will know it.
Lustful kind of love is much different. Its the feeling that omg I have to have that person, they are so very attractive, and that I think I am in love with them. Its a false true love.
You will feel love for him in time.
That love is connection.,YOu can tell him by passing him notes.or leaving him a message.! take it slowly my friend.do that if you are shy.talk to him ,call him,,,relate your feelings towards him.he will start to understand and like you.
remember
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
if you don't have trust you basically have nothing. i know people say that alot but do you really wanna be freaking out every time he goes somewhere.... trust is what a relationship is built on.... if you cant trust him an you cant admit to him you love him, then your not being fair to him an you should let him go and find someone you can count on
You answered your own question with the last three sentences. To paraphrase ';she can't trust him';. There can be no true love without trust. Also, she can't tell him she loves him, or even be in the same room with him. IF they were to get married, that would make having children impossibe. What should she do? Move on with her life and find another.
it seems as though your ';friend'; has been hurt before or something along them lines, she first has to believe, train her mind, that she has to trust him. Tell her friend to go out with him, but not on a serious thing. Dont tell him you love him until your sure, that sorta thing. What she needs to do first though is talk to him, dont tell him you dont know whether you can trust him just explain that you feel you wanna go out but are not sure of this...
No trust - no love.
Move on.
If this is really for a friend, make sure she wants you to get involved in her life before you do anything.
Why put up with half right - you deserve the best and forget the rest.
In need of advice about a girl.?
Hey there's this girl I met in one of my classes last year, I didn't really think much of her (actually I kind of disliked her) but now she is in one of my classes again this year and for whatever reason I sort of like her. Strange I know, but I was curious about what you guys would do, or what girls think I should do. Thanks in AdvanceIn need of advice about a girl.?
You are in a limbo.
Forget her if you can. Otherwise you know what to do.In need of advice about a girl.?
Just be nice to her. A lot of the guys at my school treat girls like crap when they like them. I don't know why, becuase that doesn't work at all. Talk to her, and if shes nice to you back and doesn't ignore you or roll her eyes at you she might be interested in you. Open doors for her, and compliment her. If you think there a connection, ask for her number.
Hope that somewhat helps.
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good luck.
Easy, talk to her.
Try to be funny, talk about old times in class, mainly act funny, and keep a smile, be postive.
well.... i say... flaunt yourself.
put yoursefl in her way.. so shell see you often...
show a look in your eye that you dont think shes all that... but dont be mean to her...
then... after enough random times of running into her...
talk to her about class... maybe an assignment or something.
What do you need advice on? ASk her out...
just ask her out thats all....only way to find out whats up
One day sit right next to her. Don't say anything except maybe a smile only if she looks at you. Then don't do anything at all. Trust me, she has noticed you did that and her curiousity is piqued. If she talks to you that day or a few days later she has decided she is attracted to you.
If nothing happens, a few days later accidentally be standing next to her and smile and say, ';oh, hi'; if she starts talking to you or says, ';hi'; or smiles, or stops and smiles, she likes you. If she seems to want to get away, she saw you sit next to you and you are not her type.
eh..talk to her..........then go from there maybe ?
Before you do anything, get to know her. Become her very best guy friend. That way you'll know for sure if you like her or not. Once she gets to know you, she might start liking you too. Trust me, I had this same thing happen to me. I never really got along with this guy. Then we started hanging out adn when I got to know him better he became one of my really close friends. When I found out he liked me, I started liking him too. Hopefully that will happen with you. Don't rush into dating. For me it took eight months of being just friends. You don't nescisarily have to wait that long though. Then if you're an outgoing person, ask her out. If you're shy, just flirt a little and she'll get the message.
Smile at her in the hall, say hi if you see her, talk to her if you sit near her.
You didn't like her last year, now this year you think you do?
Let it play out as associates / friends.
If you think for sure you might like her, start it off as study partners since you have a class together. I would take it slow on your behalf.
Well, you will never know unless you try. Get to know her, ask her some questions. Don't just dive straite into dateing, go out as friends first and see how you like her. Take a chance, isn't that what life is all about???
That's adorable..... girls would keep it to themselves because they want to be the last ones to get the secret out. And she would appreciate it if you told her you liked her and let her have a while to make up her mind. If I were you, I would tell her to keep it a secret until it's absolute. Think about some things you have in common and the things you don't. Think about what kind of couple you two might make. Is she fidgety? Does she always get what she wants? Is she the kind of girl that you love? If she's mean to you, don't think she doesn't like you. It means she's being mean so you think the least she doesn't like you. If she's nice, then she knows the girl trick that boys WILL know if they're mean they like him. So she's smart, but it could be that they are just interested in being friends.
I really hope this helps.
happen all the time. wait for 2 weeks to a month if u still like her then talk to her
Joey knows the score here. There is this thing that we have going on in our heads where we think we know what we want and you get all stuck on some kinda aesthetic. Say you been looking at the wrong kinda magazines or Internet sites and this other girl doesn't look like that and so you blew it off because of your fantasy. All of a sudden you're looking at her and see she's got nice personality and looks good and is fun too. WHAT WERE YOU THINKING.
Joey knows. You weren't thinking at all. This is the way of men. So now Joey says: if you can, give yourself over to this woman because there are depths there and you are shallow and need to figure out just what it is to appreciate a woman's full beauty without being stuck on the superficial stuff. That is why she is calling to you.
talk to her
well everyday in class talk to her so you can get your confindence up. Then when she starts conversations with you. Ask her out
take a diving chance and ask the girl out!
be a man grab some walnuts and ask her!.... not for that... for a date. durr.lips
You are in a limbo.
Forget her if you can. Otherwise you know what to do.In need of advice about a girl.?
Just be nice to her. A lot of the guys at my school treat girls like crap when they like them. I don't know why, becuase that doesn't work at all. Talk to her, and if shes nice to you back and doesn't ignore you or roll her eyes at you she might be interested in you. Open doors for her, and compliment her. If you think there a connection, ask for her number.
Hope that somewhat helps.
:]
good luck.
Easy, talk to her.
Try to be funny, talk about old times in class, mainly act funny, and keep a smile, be postive.
well.... i say... flaunt yourself.
put yoursefl in her way.. so shell see you often...
show a look in your eye that you dont think shes all that... but dont be mean to her...
then... after enough random times of running into her...
talk to her about class... maybe an assignment or something.
What do you need advice on? ASk her out...
just ask her out thats all....only way to find out whats up
One day sit right next to her. Don't say anything except maybe a smile only if she looks at you. Then don't do anything at all. Trust me, she has noticed you did that and her curiousity is piqued. If she talks to you that day or a few days later she has decided she is attracted to you.
If nothing happens, a few days later accidentally be standing next to her and smile and say, ';oh, hi'; if she starts talking to you or says, ';hi'; or smiles, or stops and smiles, she likes you. If she seems to want to get away, she saw you sit next to you and you are not her type.
eh..talk to her..........then go from there maybe ?
Before you do anything, get to know her. Become her very best guy friend. That way you'll know for sure if you like her or not. Once she gets to know you, she might start liking you too. Trust me, I had this same thing happen to me. I never really got along with this guy. Then we started hanging out adn when I got to know him better he became one of my really close friends. When I found out he liked me, I started liking him too. Hopefully that will happen with you. Don't rush into dating. For me it took eight months of being just friends. You don't nescisarily have to wait that long though. Then if you're an outgoing person, ask her out. If you're shy, just flirt a little and she'll get the message.
Smile at her in the hall, say hi if you see her, talk to her if you sit near her.
You didn't like her last year, now this year you think you do?
Let it play out as associates / friends.
If you think for sure you might like her, start it off as study partners since you have a class together. I would take it slow on your behalf.
Well, you will never know unless you try. Get to know her, ask her some questions. Don't just dive straite into dateing, go out as friends first and see how you like her. Take a chance, isn't that what life is all about???
That's adorable..... girls would keep it to themselves because they want to be the last ones to get the secret out. And she would appreciate it if you told her you liked her and let her have a while to make up her mind. If I were you, I would tell her to keep it a secret until it's absolute. Think about some things you have in common and the things you don't. Think about what kind of couple you two might make. Is she fidgety? Does she always get what she wants? Is she the kind of girl that you love? If she's mean to you, don't think she doesn't like you. It means she's being mean so you think the least she doesn't like you. If she's nice, then she knows the girl trick that boys WILL know if they're mean they like him. So she's smart, but it could be that they are just interested in being friends.
I really hope this helps.
happen all the time. wait for 2 weeks to a month if u still like her then talk to her
Joey knows the score here. There is this thing that we have going on in our heads where we think we know what we want and you get all stuck on some kinda aesthetic. Say you been looking at the wrong kinda magazines or Internet sites and this other girl doesn't look like that and so you blew it off because of your fantasy. All of a sudden you're looking at her and see she's got nice personality and looks good and is fun too. WHAT WERE YOU THINKING.
Joey knows. You weren't thinking at all. This is the way of men. So now Joey says: if you can, give yourself over to this woman because there are depths there and you are shallow and need to figure out just what it is to appreciate a woman's full beauty without being stuck on the superficial stuff. That is why she is calling to you.
talk to her
well everyday in class talk to her so you can get your confindence up. Then when she starts conversations with you. Ask her out
take a diving chance and ask the girl out!
be a man grab some walnuts and ask her!.... not for that... for a date. durr.
I need some advice about this situation...?
Do you guys know the singer Joe? Well my friend knows him and his younger brother Joe, and the younger Joe, says my friend, really likes me. I've never seen this guy before but she says he's really really cute, and he can sing really really good, (most of the older Joe's songs are sung by the younger Joe, and they duet) and I've heard the younger Joe's song If I Was Your Man, and I love it. I don't know really anything else about this guy, but my friend thinks something could happen. Should I trust her judgment? I don't know the next time I'll see him, so do I go for him?I need some advice about this situation...?
You should never listen to what your friends say the guy, first you must much more about him than just run after a person you do not even know. Things happen and most of them are wrong, so take more information about him and see if you can talk to people who do know the guy very well.
That will help you more than your friends judgment.
You should never listen to what your friends say the guy, first you must much more about him than just run after a person you do not even know. Things happen and most of them are wrong, so take more information about him and see if you can talk to people who do know the guy very well.
That will help you more than your friends judgment.
Need some advice about friends?
Ok this is a strange question. I recently went to a hypnosis show with a few of my coworkers/classmates in my masters program at school. Anyway..a few of the two girls from my program with whome I am really good friends with got up on stage and were really awesome. They went really deeply under and didn't remeber a thing. The problem is this..I got completly and totally turned on by this. The hypnotist was one of an erotic bent and had them do differant routines like have an orgasm from a foot rub/handshake or have them give oral to bananas. Also I just thought that the two of them looked very hot being put to sleep up there. So...I think this might effect our relationship as both of them are married. If not I would totally be asking them out...so..the question is...why was they hypnosis what turned me on? Was it the sleeping beauty aspect of it? Also..what shouuld I do about these feelings. Thanks.Need some advice about friends?
it waas the ASPECT your ATTRacted to these girls,,and would never see them in these sexual situations, so you got really turned on...you could drop a line about how what they did turned you on..or really turned y0u on, and just see their reaction,,cuz they ARE married so mite not wanna cheat with just some guy with a bon/'erNeed some advice about friends?
A hypnotist? Are you having dreams, sweetie?
Weird! I was just talking about this yesterday. I have seen a show like this too. Well, the bottom line is they are married, so back off. There is nothing you can do. Single girls can do the same things too! I know you know them, so it makes you see them in a different light, but the fact is, your hands are tied. It wasn't that they were hypnotized, it was that you saw them at their most personal moments, a glimpse of what their husbands see and no one else...and because they weren't aware, it was kinda voyeristic, which many people find to be a turn on...
I agree with whatever Lawyer says...
the show sounds really messed up, but you have to hold back. they are friends
it waas the ASPECT your ATTRacted to these girls,,and would never see them in these sexual situations, so you got really turned on...you could drop a line about how what they did turned you on..or really turned y0u on, and just see their reaction,,cuz they ARE married so mite not wanna cheat with just some guy with a bon/'erNeed some advice about friends?
A hypnotist? Are you having dreams, sweetie?
Weird! I was just talking about this yesterday. I have seen a show like this too. Well, the bottom line is they are married, so back off. There is nothing you can do. Single girls can do the same things too! I know you know them, so it makes you see them in a different light, but the fact is, your hands are tied. It wasn't that they were hypnotized, it was that you saw them at their most personal moments, a glimpse of what their husbands see and no one else...and because they weren't aware, it was kinda voyeristic, which many people find to be a turn on...
I agree with whatever Lawyer says...
the show sounds really messed up, but you have to hold back. they are friends
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