U know what? Sometimes I have the same problem. I visit my mom and my husband seems to get jealous over my mom. I guess men never grow up. I am glad you set ur husband straight. I will never stop visiting my mom and my husband s negative attitude wont get me down. Your daughter needs a mom, like I do, I am also 22. Especially if she has a baby. I am sure that ur daughter or her family cant imagine life without you. I wish all familys did not have that bad apple. I NEED my mom. She gives me advice and counsel. She gives me love and her hugs are what I cant imagine me with out. So, remember, your husband has the door wide open to visit his family too! Is his choice to walk thru it or leave it. You,.... are doing what is best for u and ur familyI need advice about my marriage?
Maybe your life would be better if he did leave. He sounds very abusive and you have put up with it for so long that you are numb. My guess is that taking him to joint counseling would be like pulling teeth because he probably doesn't think he is the problem.
I don't know what to say apart from you need to seriously consider living apart from this man for awhile until he gets his act together. I would seek help from a neutral third party like a family-marriage counselor right away. There is no way anyone should make you give up your God-given right to your daughter and grandchild. Anyone who would ask you to do that is in serious need of help.
Friend this man has issues. Nothing but death could keep me from my kids. Let him leave!!!!!
From what you've described, he's got a really sick problem. I don't know what else to say. He should be loving them and visiting them, as well.
Does your daughter know about this? Has she said anything to him?
He will be okay. Your daughter and grandchild need you. If her husband is going to Iraq (he's in the Army so if he hasent then he will) so she will need you as a comforter. Don't let dad stop that
You should seek a good marriage countser (Caution their are bad ones out there lots of them). Get one you both trust and just lay everything out on the table.
he is acting like a jerk
Are you sure he is not the one having the affair? iHe sounds like a controlling jerk.
Write a letter to an imaginary friend about the history of your marriage up to how you are feeling today. Write about what your intentions are in the marriage and what your hopes are, as if you were writing to a very trusted friend.
Take that letter and give it to your husband. Tell him to write you back... as if HE were writing, not to you, but to a trusted friend.
Maybe with all this truth and communication, you will both become the trusted friends you are imagining.
Go be with your daughter and grandchild
First of all.. Right on Mom.. You continue to be strong.
Nothing you can do about the jealousy he continually feels.. But you doing what is right and that is living without an anchor.. I only pray he realized what he may lose because of his mind working overtime.
I would gently confront his behavior, by asking him why he is acting manipulative and controlling? Tell him that it is perfectly normal for a grandmother to want to see her daughter and granddaughter. Why is he making this such an issue.
Try to help him confront his feelings by asking questions that expose what is going on inside.
well its your granddaughter,babysit as much as you want, if he doesn't like it tell him to deal. or make him a cake then ask him why he gets so tweeked.
Sometimes men get clingy keep invviting him if he declines go anyway have yr daughter invite him and perhaps pick him up to go have fun enjoy your grandchildren
Sounds like counseling is needed for both of you. Control issues, insecurity. Both of you need to work on it.....it can get better.
Your husband is jealous of the time you spend with your daughter and her family, that is more time taken away from him! This is pure selfishness on his part. He sounds like a big spoiled brat!
Sad. :(
You need to tell him that his reason for accusing is because he feels guilty himself of something he has done. Any man that is jealous of his own child has a problem, does he never want to see his grandchild. I would tell him to get over it and nothing is going to stop you from seeing your daughter or grandchild. A person that is that controlling is bad news, but I'm sure you already know that since you have lived with him all these years. Good luck to you.
First, does he have any reason to mistrust you? Did he find out about your boyfriend?
If not, then he is being very immature, even for a man. The next time he threatens to leave you, tell him you will help him pack. See how quickly he changes his tune.
Well take him with you next time that you are going to see your grandaughter. EFIL
Go be with your daughter and her child.
show him the door the next time he threatens to leave. you dont need this kind of manipulative abuse in your life.
You with to long letting that control animal control on your life. You probably just woke up and want to take back some control over you life. HE NOT GOING TO CHANGE. If you can stand his selfishness and mean spirit then you can stay if not, these shoe are made for walking.
sounds like you have it figured out.......if he doesnt like it, tough, like you said, you have stopped letting him control you. either he will get over it or leave, and in your case the second option is probably best.
The reason why he does not trust you is because he knows he cannot be trusted and assumes you are doing the same. He has probably been unfaithful. You should watch his behavior and unexplained absences. I think he has a guilty conscience he is trying to cover.
FROM A MANS POINT OF VIEW... if he threatens to leave i would just tell him go ahead and leave...im not here to treat you like a child....i would go see your grandchild and daughter anytime you want to let him know you are not his property.....seek counseling sounds like your husband needs it....WOMEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF LISTENING TO AN IDIOT HUSBAND WHEN HE IS BEING AN IDIOT JUST TELL HIM WHERE YOU ARE GOING SAY BYE AND LEAVE......DONT KEEP ARGUEING WITH HIM...BE STRAIGHT FORWARD...also try to explore what is making him act this way...in a kind understanding manner...no woman windbag technique....i hope i have helped and good luck
Well, not to be mean, but he is emotionally maladjusted. I'm sure that since you phrased the question this way (opening headline), you know deep down that either his mental-emotional health and/or your marriage aren't great and haven't been for a long time. This is not the only issue, or not out of the blue.
I hope you, or both of you, get help. And watch out for if he is emotionally or physically abusive to anyone. His reactions are beyond normal jealousy or possessiveness.
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